Today’s Autism parenting poll is one that some might struggle with. It requires you to be very honest with yourself and that’s not always easy.
The question is a simple one. Do you ever miss your life before Autism?
I wanted to share my honest answer before asking you all to answer as well.
I’ve been doing the Autism parenting thing since before Autism was such a hot topic. In fact, when my kids were diagnosed, it was almost unheard of to have more than one child diagnosed, let alone a blended family having three on the Autism Spectrum.
In the last 16 years, I’ve realized that while I often hate to admit this, I’m only human. As such, I’m subject to limitations and feelings that are outside of my control. I’ve come to learn that this is perfectly okay.
I love my kids more than anything in the world and wouldn’t give them up for anything.
Having said that, I’m not sure there’s a day that goes by where I don’t miss my life before it was consumed by Autism. I’ve no problems saying that because there’s nothing wrong with feeling that way.
What we go through as Autism parents on a daily basis, is indescribable and frankly, while we all love our kids, I would be surprised is anyone enjoyed the stress, anxiety, fear, heartache, and exhaustion that goes along with being an Autism parent. Of course, it’s worth it but I mean honestly, it’s not always fun.
Admitting that doesn’t in any way mean you love your kids any less or would trade your life for anyone else’s.
The idea behind this poll is to help others see that they are the only ones to feel this way. Maybe it can help normalize it for them and help them to set aside the guilt that we can all feel when it comes to things like this.