When he stays home, we always do so with the intention of encouraging him to try again after a little while. Sometimes that little break or late start is all he needs to get over the hurdle and we can get him to school before lunch.
The school is very supportive and understanding, especially because of how well he’s doing in school. These off days don’t impact him one way or another, so the absence isn’t a concern for us. We’re more concerned about doing what’s right for our child with Autism, ADHD, Anxiety and very challenging sensory processing issues. If that means he misses of school, that’s just what we have to do.
I should add that it’s always a good thing to have solid, open communication with your child’s teachers and school staff. It generally makes them more receptive and will to work with you.
This isn’t easily understood by those outside of the special needs parenting community and that can lead to friction or misunderstandings at times.
At the end of the day though, we have to look Emmett in the eyes and be able to know that we did right by him. Forcing him to go to school, in one of these instances, would be so counter productive and frankly, harmful to a child who generalizes everything in his life.
We want to make sure our kids know that we have their back and will do whatever we can to help them navigate a life that I can only imagine. We don’t give up and we do our best. We push the boundaries in order to overcome challenges but we also know when enough is enough.
Decisions like this are one of countless others, just as complex and challenging, that special needs parents face each and every day.
What works for my family may or may not work for yours. Having said that, my hope is that you can learn something from our experience and maybe even benefit from it as well.
I’d love to hear your thoughts, opinions and first hand experience in matters such as this. I’m also happy to entertain, well thought out questions, of a serious and non-judgmental nature. We’re here to learn and grow, not criticize what we don’t understand… ☺