(Poll) Can you sleep at night if your child with #Autism isn’t? 



This is a question I get asked all the time by my readers. Here’s a bit of background first.

I have three kids with Autism, and two of them can struggle with sleep issues. When they wake up at night or aren’t able to fall asleep in the first place, I will stay up with them until I can get them sleeping.

My readers have asked many times, why I don’t just go to bed and leave them awake. Fair question.



I almost never fall asleep if any of my kids are still awake at night. Our home is monitored for safety, via our Vivint Gives Back smart home system, meaning I know if they leave the house or move around downstairs. At the same time, I’m not comfortable with them wandering the house at night, unsupervised.

My kids aren’t necessarily prone to wandering, but they can definitely get themselves into trouble. They get into things they shouldn’t and can easily hurt themselves. They will also ask me for things while I’m sleeping, and I’ve no memory of it, and can apparently yes to things I otherwise wouldn’t.

It’s for these reasons and countless others, I just can’t leave them to wander the house if I am not awake and aware.



This can lead to many sleepless nights and often does.

My approach doesn’t make sense to some people but I thought I would see how my approach is similar or different to yours, in a similar circumstance. Please answer the poll below, feel free to create a new answer if needed, and discuss this in the comments below.

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Jenny Cavanaugh
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I sleep w my daughter a lot. Try 2 buy her things that make her happy in bed. Thesedays it’s beaieb… https://t.co/F8CtvneuOx

Todd Redwine
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……dude, whats sleep?….sounds awesome, where can I buy some?

Word to Your Mother Blog
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Nope!

Maryann Stocker Williams
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Most of the time

Jenny Cavanaugh
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I sleep w my daughter a lot. Try 2 buy her things that make her happy in bed. Thesedays it’s beaieb… https://t.co/F8CtvneuOx

Todd Redwine
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……dude, whats sleep?….sounds awesome, where can I buy some?

Word to Your Mother Blog
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Nope!

Maryann Stocker Williams
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Most of the time

Tammy Seguin
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Hell no

Tammy Seguin
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Hell no

kimmy gebhardt
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kimmy gebhardt

I’m curious… why are you okay with them being up and about during the day if you take a nap? If the issue is that they will get into things and/or ask you for things when they know you’re asleep, that’s not a nighttime problem and I wouldn’t consider it an autism problem either. I think that’s something that all kids do, kind of like asking one parent for something when the other says no. Last time you mentioned having to be awake all night a couple of people mentioned/asked why you couldn’t make a rule that they were not… Read more »

kimmy gebhardt
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kimmy gebhardt

I’m curious… why are you okay with them being up and about during the day if you take a nap? If the issue is that they will get into things and/or ask you for things when they know you’re asleep, that’s not a nighttime problem and I wouldn’t consider it an autism problem either. I think that’s something that all kids do, kind of like asking one parent for something when the other says no. Last time you mentioned having to be awake all night a couple of people mentioned/asked why you couldn’t make a rule that they were not… Read more »

Sean McCammon
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Reading this certainly relates to my nights. We have 1 of two things,
either a very late to bed with a wake up around 7, or a early to bed
(around 7) with a 2-3am wake up. Thank said, I think after quite a few
years of it I am used to it.

This is a great article though. Its
sites like yours that have inspired me to create my own site
theautismdada (dada because that is the only current word my son
says).

Keep up the good work.

Rob Gorski
Admin

Nice to know we aren’t alone… Congrats on the new blog. Feel free to share a link to your site on my Facebook page

Sean McCammon
Guest

Reading this certainly relates to my nights. We have 1 of two things,
either a very late to bed with a wake up around 7, or a early to bed
(around 7) with a 2-3am wake up. Thank said, I think after quite a few
years of it I am used to it.

This is a great article though. Its
sites like yours that have inspired me to create my own site
theautismdada (dada because that is the only current word my son
says).

Keep up the good work.

Rob Gorski
Admin

Nice to know we aren’t alone… Congrats on the new blog. Feel free to share a link to your site on my Facebook page

Sean McCammon
Guest

Reading this certainly relates to my nights. We have 1 of two things,
either a very late to bed with a wake up around 7, or a early to bed
(around 7) with a 2-3am wake up. Thank said, I think after quite a few
years of it I am used to it.

This is a great article though. Its
sites like yours that have inspired me to create my own site
theautismdada (dada because that is the only current word my son
says).

Keep up the good work.

Rob Gorski
Admin

Nice to know we aren’t alone… Congrats on the new blog. Feel free to share a link to your site on my Facebook page

Sean McCammon
Guest

Reading this certainly relates to my nights. We have 1 of two things,
either a very late to bed with a wake up around 7, or a early to bed
(around 7) with a 2-3am wake up. Thank said, I think after quite a few
years of it I am used to it.

This is a great article though. Its
sites like yours that have inspired me to create my own site
theautismdada (dada because that is the only current word my son
says).

Keep up the good work.

Rob Gorski
Admin

Nice to know we aren’t alone… Congrats on the new blog. Feel free to share a link to your site on my Facebook page

Sean McCammon
Guest

Reading this certainly relates to my nights. We have 1 of two things,
either a very late to bed with a wake up around 7, or a early to bed
(around 7) with a 2-3am wake up. Thank said, I think after quite a few
years of it I am used to it.

This is a great article though. Its
sites like yours that have inspired me to create my own site
theautismdada (dada because that is the only current word my son
says).

Keep up the good work.

Rob Gorski
Admin

Nice to know we aren’t alone… Congrats on the new blog. Feel free to share a link to your site on my Facebook page

Sean McCammon
Guest

Reading this certainly relates to my nights. We have 1 of two things,
either a very late to bed with a wake up around 7, or a early to bed
(around 7) with a 2-3am wake up. Thank said, I think after quite a few
years of it I am used to it.

This is a great article though. Its
sites like yours that have inspired me to create my own site
theautismdada (dada because that is the only current word my son
says).

Keep up the good work.

Rob Gorski
Admin

Nice to know we aren’t alone… Congrats on the new blog. Feel free to share a link to your site on my Facebook page

Sean McCammon
Guest

Reading this certainly relates to my nights. We have 1 of two things,
either a very late to bed with a wake up around 7, or a early to bed
(around 7) with a 2-3am wake up. Thank said, I think after quite a few
years of it I am used to it.

This is a great article though. Its
sites like yours that have inspired me to create my own site
theautismdada (dada because that is the only current word my son
says).

Keep up the good work.

Rob Gorski
Admin

Nice to know we aren’t alone… Congrats on the new blog. Feel free to share a link to your site on my Facebook page

Sean McCammon
Guest

Reading this certainly relates to my nights. We have 1 of two things,
either a very late to bed with a wake up around 7, or a early to bed
(around 7) with a 2-3am wake up. Thank said, I think after quite a few
years of it I am used to it.

This is a great article though. Its
sites like yours that have inspired me to create my own site
theautismdada (dada because that is the only current word my son
says).

Keep up the good work.

Rob Gorski
Admin

Nice to know we aren’t alone… Congrats on the new blog. Feel free to share a link to your site on my Facebook page

Suzanne Olsen
Guest
Suzanne Olsen

I used to have trouble sleeping at night. Now if i’ve had trouble sleeping i will have green tea before bed as it relaxes the stomach and lets me drift off to sleep. Sometimes having a hot milo at night is good. I was given a herbal medicine when i was little to help me sleep as i used to sleepwalk when i was little. It might work for your younger two sons. Valerigan was the sleep medicine i took. It was in liquid form. If you don’t want medicines try getting hold of a couple of weighted blankets as… Read more »

Suzanne Olsen
Guest
Suzanne Olsen

I used to have trouble sleeping at night. Now if i’ve had trouble sleeping i will have green tea before bed as it relaxes the stomach and lets me drift off to sleep. Sometimes having a hot milo at night is good. I was given a herbal medicine when i was little to help me sleep as i used to sleepwalk when i was little. It might work for your younger two sons. Valerigan was the sleep medicine i took. It was in liquid form. If you don’t want medicines try getting hold of a couple of weighted blankets as… Read more »

Suzanne Olsen
Guest
Suzanne Olsen

I used to have trouble sleeping at night. Now if i’ve had trouble sleeping i will have green tea before bed as it relaxes the stomach and lets me drift off to sleep. Sometimes having a hot milo at night is good. I was given a herbal medicine when i was little to help me sleep as i used to sleepwalk when i was little. It might work for your younger two sons. Valerigan was the sleep medicine i took. It was in liquid form. If you don’t want medicines try getting hold of a couple of weighted blankets as… Read more »

Suzanne Olsen
Guest
Suzanne Olsen

I used to have trouble sleeping at night. Now if i’ve had trouble sleeping i will have green tea before bed as it relaxes the stomach and lets me drift off to sleep. Sometimes having a hot milo at night is good. I was given a herbal medicine when i was little to help me sleep as i used to sleepwalk when i was little. It might work for your younger two sons. Valerigan was the sleep medicine i took. It was in liquid form. If you don’t want medicines try getting hold of a couple of weighted blankets as… Read more »