What kind of person gets frustrated with a kid like that? As it turns out, a human.
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I used to beat myself up all the time because I would get frustrated with my kids for things like not being able to tolerate clothing or having such a hard time with food. A big one was melting down while in public. I used to get so frustrated with that and sometimes still do.
Someone, somewhere, must have said that it was a terrible thing to ever get frustrated with a child that has special needs because every time I did, it felt like I was the worst parent in the universe. I struggled with this for a long time until I finally realized a few things.
I realized that I was human.
I realized that I had limits.
I realized that me being frustrated with my kids over behaviors they had no control over, was pretty normal, as far as normal goes.
I also realized that being frustrated with my kids on the Autism Spectrum does not mean I don’t love them or they are somehow bad kids. It simply means that I’m a human parent and they are human children. Kids are supposed to drive their parents crazy, and parents are supposed to be driven crazy by their kids. Autism or not, they’re still kids.
Once I realized that I stopped beating myself up as much as I had been. Instead, I began to focus on a way of managing the emotions I experienced as an Autism parent. I found healthy ways to cope with my frustrations and anxieties. I never took my frustrations out on my kids in a physical way. I was just losing patience and raise my voice. I found that writing helped me to process my feelings, and use the experiences, both good and bad, to help other parents out there going through a similar situation.
It’s not a perfect solution but it definitely helps me to process things better and maintain a proper perspective.
The bottom line is this, it’s okay to be frustrated with your child on the Autism Spectrum. It’s how you deal with those feelings that matter the most. Beating yourself up for being human, isn’t going to help anyone. You aren’t a bad parent for having limitations either. It’s just really important to know your limits and recognize when you’re approaching them… ☺