When you’re a single parent, it’s true that you have to do twice the work. You have twice the frustration, twice the tears, twice the worry and the doubt. But, in return you get twice the smiles, twice the hugs, twice the success. It’s always going to be worth it, but there are some days where you feel as though you are at the end of your tether and you are about to lose your mind. On those days, you need to be gentle with yourself. In this article, we’re going to be looking at some of the things that you should ensure are happening in your home so that it doesn’t get this bad very often. Keep reading if you would like to find out more.
Everyone Chips In
You cannot do everything on your own, and the more children you have, the more difficult it becomes to manage. All children need structure, and we recommend that you make sure everyone is chipping in where they can. What we mean by this is that your kids, when they are old enough, should be helping with small things around the house. Of course you shouldn’t expect any money from them, but they can do things like empty and fill the dishwasher, run the vacuum around the house and so on. If everyone is doing something, then things should be able to stay manageable. If it is all falling on your shoulders constantly, it will feel like the weight of the world.
Do Something For You
It’s not selfish to want to have something of your own. One of the things that you need to think about is doing something for you. Whether this means that you take half an hour each day to sit down and read in the quiet simply because you enjoy it, or whether it means taking the time to complete an online mha or something similar for when you start work again doesn’t matter. Figure out something you want to do, and then do it because you want to. It can be as simple as taking an evening with a premade moscow mule to yourself and just unwinding. It’s up to you. When you are a parent, your children will always come first, but that doesn’t mean that you don’t factor in at all. When your kids are older you’re going to need a job so getting a degree is a practical idea, and any other hobby you want to consider will help you to relax.
Remember You’re Not Alone
The final thing that we want to remind you of is the fact that you are not alone. You will feel it. You will feel alone so many times that eventually you’re going to lose count, but you’re not. Sometimes you will go for days without talking to another adult and this can be really hard, but you have a miracle, or multiple little miracles in your life. Whenever you’re feeling like you’re alone, remember that you never will be again because you have your children, even though sometimes you might wish you were for a little while!
We hope that you have found this article helpful, and now see some of the things that you can do in order to stay sane as a single parent. A lot of people think that it’s an easy task, but on some days this will be the hardest thing that you are ever going to have to do. Relax, you’re a good parent even though you’re reaching the end of your tether. We wish you the very best of luck.
This is a contributed post.