I'm finding myself getting frustrated with the boys behavior. In the case of Elliott, it's a mix of Autism, sensory, Anxiety, ADHD, and being a pre-teen. It's sometimes very difficult to know what's behind the behaviors, mood swings, and other challenging behaviors.
There's at least a portion of behavior that I suspect is very typical for the age group, and yet there is a large portion that does seem to have a driving force behind it, that's outside of his control.
It's not easy to know what is what in situations like this, and that's important for knowing where to draw the *accountability *line.
I don't want to hold my kids accountable for things outside of their control, but at the same time, I don't want a diagnosis to be an excuse for problem behavior. Society will never accept excuses, and my kids have to exist within society.
It's frustrating for me as a parent, because I want to do right by them, but that's not always black and white.
