Choices (an honesty post)

Anyone that has followed our journey over the years knows that life with Gavin is challenging and sometimes dangerous. We have been concerned about the impact his behaviors are having on his younger brothers for quite some time now.

The reason this has popped up again is because the earily intervention specialists involved with Emmett John have suggested that some of Emmett Johns behaviors are mimicking Gavins. That is exactly what Dr. Patti says about Elliott as well. She says that Gavin has contaminated everything. We don’t know where Gavin and his behaviors end and the other kids begin. Because of how dynamic Gavins issues are it makes it extremely difficult to know what behaviors are actually Emmett and Elliotts and what behaviors are either reactions to or imitations of Gavins.

It’s like Gavin over shadows everything and everyone. I don’t know what we are going to do. The best thing for Emmett and Elliott is to limit their exposure to Gavin. I use the word “exposure” because that’s exactly what it is. Anyone that is involved with us on a more personal level has probably already experienced what I mean by “exposure”.

Most people can only take Gavin is short spurts because he is just so exhausting. I wish I knew wht we were supposed to do. We have to make some tough choices and I don’t know where those choices are going to take us but I fear they are going to involve putting distance and a buffer between Gain and th other kids.

2 comments

    • Tiffanie on November 5, 2010 at 3:06 am
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    Rob I'm so sorry that you even have to think about making a choice like this. But your honesty is wonderful and you must do what is best for you other children also while continuing to work toward figuring Gavin out. I applaud your honesty and determination. Good luck and you will be in my thoughts and prayers that everything works out and things become easier.

    • Lisa G on November 4, 2010 at 7:29 pm
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    I dnt mean to "like" ur blog in that way but I like that ur honest. Its very rare sometimes that anyone will admit that out kids with ASD want to make us all run screaming to the hills.

    I'm sorry for ur struggles, sorry for my own struggles. I wish I knew the words to help you and ur family but ur gut feelings will tell you what to do.

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