Christmas: The Aftermath

I was wondering how everyone’s holiday went?  At the Lost and Tired house we are seeing overstimulation out the wazoo.  My kids are all running around like chicken’s with their heads cut off.

Gavin has been completely out of it and I don’t know how to help him. He almost seems manic but his Lithium level was just test the other day and everything is fine. He’s back to having to tell me every single thing that he is thinking about.  I’ve told him many,  many times now that I don’t need to hear everything that he’s thinking but it doesn’t seem to work.

When I say he tells me everything,  I mean everything.  The constant talking is maddening and I truly mean that.

All the boys,  in general, have a very short fuse right now.  Elliott is super duper whiney and Emmett is screaming like a someone is trying to break his arm or something.  Mr. Gavin is having meltdowns more frequently than before and they are becoming more aggressive and once again include self-injury.

Lizze is really struggling with life right now.  Her migraine is still there and she isnhavng to use her cane to walk around again.  The stress of the holidays and the constantly changing weather is killing her. She is physically and emotionally exhausted to the point she literally can’t stay awake.

To give you a better idea just how difficult things are for her,  here’s an example.  Lizze will go into the kitchen and try to wash dishes because she wants to help.  She’s only able to wash a handful of dishes and when shesndone,  she’s literally down for the rest of the day. Something as simple as that will cause her so much pain that she can’t move the rest of the day.  That’s how bad.

I’m stressed out and trying to keep everyone above water and if you have ever tried to rescue a drowning person,  you know how difficult it is to do because the person you are trying to keep afloat is panicking and so they fight your attempts to help.  Well,  it’s sorta like that anyway.

I wish I had more time to write as it’s something I have grown very passionate about. Maybe someday things will slow down enough to allow me to allocate more time to my therapeutic passion.

I hope your family fared better and that the holiday and the days following,  were peaceful and enjoyable.

If you have any tips you would like to share with the rest of the class,  fee free.  I for one,  can always use some good advice and a new perspective.

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Rob Gorski

Full time, work from home single Dad to my 3 amazing boys. Oh...and creator fo this blog. :-)
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I just had a thought about Lizzie, has she had a recent allergy or food sensitivity test? With Fibro, new ones can crop up all the time and can make the pain or migraines worse.

Michele Chaney on Fa

I just had a thought about Lizzie, has she had a recent allergy or food sensitivity test? With Fibro, new ones can crop up all the time and can make the pain or migraines worse.

@mindthecompany

My mom always used to say "This too shall pass…" so I figure since she is almost always right I should just buckle up and hold on tight 'cause it's going to be a bumpy ride. 🙂 We fared well this past holiday, until my (neuro-typical) stepson came back from his Mom's. He's the kid that cannot survive without chaos. After almost 24hrs of topsy turvy kids I gave up, dressed them in their outside stuff and carted them up the road to ride bikes and scooters. Best decision I ever made!

Forgotten

My suggestion is to pack up the tree and decorations and get everything back to as normal as possible. Set a schedule for the day such as a time for free play, coloring, watching a movie, playing a video game, breakfast, lunch, and dinner. Heavy work for your hyper ones. Give them a mission, something to occupy their minds, such as finding all the blue buttons in a tub of dry beans or counting the number of window panes in the house. Make breakfast and lunch something easy and fast and dinner in a crockpot for a few days so that you can concentrate on getting the schedule going. Wake them at the same time you would if they were going to school, put them to bed the same time. My kids thrive on a schedule so I've been keeping the same one even on our days off. I schedule any family visits, etc, around their naps so that they are getting the rest they need, too. 🙂 I hope this helps.

PATSY NAPE

Rob my heart goes out to you.Is there not a respite care program available to help give you a
break?

My son has been really hyper and over stimulated also! He isn’t sleeping well at night and his moods go up and down! Can’t wait to get him back on schedule!

There is craziness over here with vacation, no school, and trying to get Colton “unplugged” from his games is a whole other war…being off schedule dosen’t help either along with sibling rivalry and a nerf gun fight

allyson

Anna did very well with the prep and festivities but is struggling now. I have fibrous too and hosting two dinners, carinng for my family and the damns weather have me fighting a flare, which pulls dwlown my tollerence and makes me snippy, which sets off both kids. Tomorrow I have to drive them 5 hours away for a work/family trip but no one will help with home or packing and I am about to loss it, so I totally get where you're coming from!!!!!!

@householdsix

There is no magic formula. You do what you can, and start again tomorrow. Just make sure to take a moment for yourself when you can to recharge. The dishes will wait, but if you don't take care of you, you can't help anyone else either.
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