I was just wondering if you ever feel guilty sending your kids away to family or even respite, in order to get a break?
Personally, I feel guilty at times because I feel like I’m letting them down and that I should not need breaks. However, logically I know that there is nothing wrong with getting or needing a break, even if it’s from my kids.
This came up today because we are getting Gavin out of the house for the weekend. He’s going to Lizze’s parents tons pending some time with them.
This will give the entire house a break from the constant blanket of stress that we are under when he is here.
Personally, I don’t feel guilty for needing a break. However, Lizze feels horrible about wanting or needing to send her child away, so that she and the rest of us can finally relax. I completely understand where she’s coming from.
I just look at it as a mutually beneficial arrangement.
Gavin will have a great time with his grandparents and we will have a calm, relatively predictable weekend. I don’t see anything wrong with that..
Honestly, I won’t miss Gavin’s behaviors and tantrums. I also realize that the rest of the house, including myself and the friggin dogs, need this time to decompress. I think this is a blessing and I simply choose to look at it that way.
Having said that, my heart breaks for Lizze because she is absolutely struggling with this whole Gavin thing. Her heart is broken in a way that can never be fixed..
Back to my original question.
Do any of you go through things like this? Of so, how to you deal with it?
**Thanks for reading**
-Lost and Tired
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