We consulted with Gavin’s doctors today about how to address the the things he’s saying about Lizze and I.
You may recall from my previous post, that Gavin is telling his grandmother that we are basically sending him away so that he can be hooked up to an IV and have medical experiments performed on him, for about 5 years.
My instinct is to immediately confront him about this and let him know that it’s not going to work.
However, it’s been pointed out that this could simply be Gavin’s way of trying to force interactions with us and drive a wedge between everyone involved.
It totally agree with that and so I have adjusted my plan of attack accordingly.
The revised plan is to do nothing. That’s right, nothing.
If anything is to be done Lizze’s parents need to do it. This is because if we respond we are likely giving him what he wants. His goal is to create chaos. Now that he’s at his grandparents house, the arena has gotten bigger.
Instead of trying to just pit Elliott and Emmett or Lizze and myself against each other, he’s adding the grandparents into the mix.
The theory is that by saying that we are sending him away to be experimented on, he can turn his grandparents against us, or at the very least create tension.
This is the same crap he’s been doing to us for years.
Unfortunately for him, we keep an open line of communication with everyone involved, including the school. This will hopefully render his attempts to divide us, ineffective.
If I could give another family out there going through something similar, one piece of advice, it would be this. It’s so very important to have a strong support system in place. You need to have access to people who can help guide you through the unknown. Not only that but you need to have open lines of communication between all parties involved, even if you don’t like the idea.
I suppose that was two pieces of advice but their both free so no biggie.
I’m glad that I was able to get advice from Dr. Patti before I addressed this on my own. I would have likely, only made things worse, doing what I thought was right.
I wonder what would happen if your in laws just said something like " We know and we support their decision"…. Gavin probably would stop cold in his tracks…. :O
@MariaHall that's not a bad idea 😛
It has some shock value
My first thought was to have your parents tell him whatever dude, but again, I don't live it.
@Mary Franzen Costello whatever we do, we have to present with a united front.
I was going to say 'do nothing' but I don't have a child with RAD so I didn't want suggest incorrect advice. It's too bad that Gavin isn't able appreciate how much y'all love him and only want what is best for him. I know that makes it all the more difficult for you and your family.
@Melisssssa thank you. I really appreciate your support.