Confessions of #Autism Dad: The weight on my shoulders

I want to share something with all if you that I have never shared before because I am ashamed.  Perhaps your imaginations are running wild, but it’s nothing really bad.  Either way, it’s something I’m not proud of but I’m no longer going to allow this to control me.

You might remember how I push for special needs parents to take care of themselves. 

This is something that I take very seriously myself and here’s why.  I used to be a body builder and was in really, really good shape.  I would hit the gym daily and I took really good care of myself.

In my prime, I was right around 220 lbs and solid muscle.

Everything changed after  I suffered a major back injury and I eventually became a parent and then a special needs parent.

I basically let myself go.  As of last week, I tipped the scales at just over 300 lbs, the heaviest I’ve ever weighed.  Between the low self-esteem and depression, things just got out of control and it affects every aspect of my life. 

Having said that, I’m very motivated to make a change or changes, if needed. 

Lizze and I both have been exercising and we started walking again, as the weather has warmed up.  My goal is to get back up to walking 25-30/week.

I want to work on my self-discipline and gain control over my diet. 

So far this week, I’ve lost almost 3lbs and Lizze has lost 10 lbs over the past two weeks.  She’s a huge inspiration for me because she’s determined to take her life back and she’s pushing through an unbelievable amount of pain in order to do this.

It’s so important that we take care of ourselves because our kids need us. 

I wanted to invite all of you to join
Dr. Oz and he partners have put together some amazing tools to help people gain control over their health.  There’s a huge support system in place and fun ways to track your progress. 

Trust me, I know how difficult this will be.  There are so many things we have to worry about that there never seems to be time to care for ourselves. 

Please, please work with me and let’s get healthy together.  If you’re already there, maybe you have share some advice and personal experience with the rest of us. 

I will be leading by example and hopefully my journey to better health will inspire others to do the same. 

This picture was taken yesterday, right after Lizze and I finished an almost 3 mile walk in about 45 minutes.  I’m so proud of her.  🙂


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Rob Gorski

Full time, work from home single Dad to my 3 amazing boys. Oh...and creator fo this blog. :-)
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Hope to follow in your footsteps there. The medications I was on this winter made me balloon up 30ish lbs. I can’t agree more that the depression and low self esteem just compounds it all. I’m right there with you on that and still kicking myself for the condition I’m in now. Good luck to you both in reclaiming yourselves. Hopefully I won’t be far behind. 🙂


Steve Kraus, the psychologist in charge of the I-MATCH headache program, is really lanky, almost bony. But his ID photo is like five years old and I wouldn’t have recognized him if his name hadn’t been on it: five years ago he was fat. I asked him what happened and he said he basically got a clue and started exercising regularly. The Cleveland Clinic offers an incentive for their employees: you can use their gym for free as long as you use it more than three times a week (swiping your ID badge each time). Less than three times a week and you get a “gym fee” taken off your paycheck.


MeaghanGood I know right? They really work hard to help people stay healthy. 🙂


Good for you guys!  My husband and I have just begun that same thing.  I truly believe it helps to have the family involved…good luck to you guys!


Melisssssa thanks. Same to you. 🙂