You can’t fix this kind of broken

I’m going to be pretty focused on Gavin for the immediate future because I’m really struggling with this.  I only know of two or three other people that are raising a sociopathic child or one with Reactive Attachment Disorder.  I don’t believe there are many of us out there.  There’s not a lot of support to be found.

My personal struggle with this stems from not wanting to believe that this is true. 

I need to believe that everyone is wrong about him and he’s just misunderstood. It absolutely kills me to know that Gavin is a sociopath.  It breaks my heart to know that despite all our efforts to nurture and love him, it wasn’t enough to overcome nature. 

There’s no real chance for a positive outcome because you can’t fix this kind of broken.



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It’s not that sociopath’s are inherently evil. It just that they tend to leave a wake of victims because they simply don’t feel remorse or a sense of responsibility for their actions…. There is  one moral compass to guide them through life because they have no conscience. This is what can and in Gavin’s case often does lead to problems. 

We live every single day in a state of exhaustive hypevigilance because if we don’t, he will perceive that as a weakness that can be exploited.

It’s so difficult for me to accept that he is who he is.  We tried so hard to show him the right path.  We loved him so much and if feels like he has turned on us. 

I feel betrayed….

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Sounds to me like you are loving it…. Wallowing in it, even.

Lost and Tired
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Thank you for sharing your opinion… 🙂

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Annoyed–are you single? (Wait, OF COURSE YOU ARE) We should tooooootally hook up. Because you seem like the most understanding, compassionate person in the universe! Let’s make us some babies!!!

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Annoyed, you give new meaning to the word callous.

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Tammy

Well you’ve got the “brilliant” opinion of “Annoyed”. So there’s that. Wish I was as “encouraging” or as “uplifting” as Annoyed. Unfortunately, all I can do is be me. 🙂 I’ve had the day from hell. I have a child that is difficult beyond belief. And “Annoyed” would be so thrilled to know that I truly do ‘wallow’ in it. Because I’m so depressed, I can’t even get out of my own way. And yet, at the end of the day . . . I think of your family. I’m shaking my head right now. I don’t even know what… Read more »

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Tammy I feel the same way when my life acts like it is “hell in a hand basket”. i dont have it as bad as you or rob and i am grateful and i am glad you posted so i could tell you that there is another real person out here struggling and i “use” Rob and Lizzie’s family to help pick me up off the floor sometimes when life has me down on my knees. Rob let’s me bitch on here all the time about my life making me crazy. I cried off and on all day the other… Read more »

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Does this replace the reactive attachment disorder diagnosis?

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That’s a good question and I honestly don’t know the answer. My understanding is that they are on the same Spectrum. It goes something good like this… Oppositional defiance – – – conduct disorder – – – – Reactive Attachment Disorder- – – – Antisocial Personality Disorder aka sociopath aka psychopath As I understand it, it will officially remain Reactive Attachment Disorder until his 18th birthday. It will then be documented as sociopath…. I need to find out for sure about that because I honestly don’t know. It didn’t occur to me to ask at the time. I was not… Read more »