We had a very interesting session with Dr. Patti tonight. We discussed Gavin’s interactions with Lizze. Gavin is very mean and disrespectful to her and it’s really getting to a point that Lizze is quite upset by this and frankly, so am I.
When with a child that has #Autism or maybe other mental health issues like Gavin, it’s so difficult to tell what is what.
Factor in puberty and the teenage years and the water surrounding certain behavioral issues get even murkier. The Lost and Tired family is there right now with Gavin.
Dr. Patti, Lizze and myself sat down with Gavin tonight and had a very open, honest and disturbing conversation with him. It was made clear to him from the start that he wasn’t in trouble but that we needed him to tell us the truth.
We wanted to know why it was that he was so mean to Lizze. It’s very clear to everyone that he’s targeting her. The question is why, why is he targeting his mother?
It was obvious that Gavin was not being truthful with us tonight. His answers were such that he wouldn’t be incriminating himself. Dr. Patti called him out a few times when he was trying to dodge a question. When he got upset, and he did get upset, it wasn’t because he was sorry for what he had done, it was because he was caught.
I realize that it’s hard to imagine an unassuming child like Gavin being capable of such behavior but sadly, it’s true.
When all was said and done, Dr. Patti asked Gavin what we had been talking about and he said that he couldn’t remember anything that we had spoken about. To say I’m frustrated would be like calling the Grand Canyon a ditch.
If nothing else was accomplished, at least he knows that I will not tolerate disrespectful behavior from anyone towards my wife, period…..
Dr. Patti said that we have to stay strong with the accountability. At this point, that’s all we can do. Gavin hasn’t had a full blown meltdown since returning home a few weeks ago. That’s a great thing, however, we still have things that need to be worked on.
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