This morning began with more Gavin related issues. We have had to make a rule that when he’s in his bedroom, he needs permission to leave. This is a huge PITA but it helps to ensure everyone’s safety.
This morning, Gavin asked me if he could use the bathroom. I said sure, gobuse the bathroom. I was in my room, still waking up.
Next thing I know, Lizze is standing there asking me if I had given Gavin permission to go downstairs. I said no, because I hadn’t. Apparently, Gavin told Lizze that I had given him said permission to leave his room and go downstairs.
That simply was not the case.
Lizze and I have told Gavin, over and over again that we will always check with each other on things like this.
Why he continues to try and sneak things by us is beyond me.
Apparently, this is typical behavior of someone with reactive attachment disorder (RAD). He’s constantly trying to play us off of each other or manipulate us.
Because of this, we have to check and double check everything he says. We have to assume he’s lying to us because 99% of the time, he is being untruthful.
The only way we can ensure everyone’s safety, until we get him placed, is to know where he is at all times. This means that if he’s sent to his room, he stays there until instructed otherwise. This lying to us in order to get what he wants is not going to fly.
… and for the record, he’s not misunderstanding us either. He will try to play that card but it no longer has any value as he has lost all credibility.
This whole thing breaks my heart. I wish things were different. 🙁
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