I’m going to confess to something that I’m quite embarrassed of and never talk about because I really struggle with this.
Something you may not know about me is that I’m rather particular about my things. Some might consider it OCD but I honestly don’t know.
For me personally, I can’t deal with things like dead pixels an LCD screen.
While I truly love technology, I dread getting things like new phones, handheld gaming systems or TV’s/Monitors. The excitement of getting something new is drowned out by the anxiety I feel over whether or not the display is perfect.
If I see a dead pixel or worse, dead pixels, I simply can’t cope with it. Once I see it I know it’s there and can’t move passed it.
I’ve been known to return or exchange things many times, in an attempt to get something without imperfections. Often times, I eventually give up and either return or sell whatever product it happens to be.
I know I’m not alone in this because a lot of techy people are bothered by this same exact thing.
Last night, I noticed that my phones display is not perfect.
My particular model uses a non-LCD type display, known as Super AMOLED. It basically a new display technology that uses different materials and functions differently as well.
Dead pixels on an AMOLED screen are rare, but they do happen. Another known issue with AMOLED screens are these black blotches that are visible in low light conditions on a black screen. These are extremely difficult to notice and some people may not ever be able to actually see them.
Basically, you go into a dark room and bring up a black screen. Once your eyes adjust to the dark, the black image will actually begin to take on a greenish tint. If you have any of these blotches, you’ll see very thick, dark, black lines or spots. It looks like someone wrote with a black sharpie on the screen.
These are only visible in these conditions and affect absolutely nothing else about the screen.
Having said that, not all screens suffer from this. So to me, it’s a defect, even though it really isn’t.
It does however, drive me absolutely crazy. I won’t even want to touch the phone because I feel that it’s broken and it will put me in the worst mood imaginable.
If I’m being completely honest with you, it feels like my whole world comes crashing down around me.
I know how ridiculous that sounds and I’m quite embarrassed to admit this but it’s true.
The reason I have brought this up is that I’ve noticed that my kids are doing the same things. They are extremely particular about these things. While they don’t care about dead pixels or black blotches, they are profoundly affected by the slightest imperfections of other things.
For example, Emmett is very particular about his food. If he sees any and I mean any perceived imperfections in his food, he will refuse to eat.
Elliott is the same way about other things.
I realize that this is likely part of who they are. However, I don’t want to contribute to this in any way. If fact, I want to be able to help them to move passed this stuff.
How can I do that if I’m guilty of this myself. My kids aren’t aware of my struggles but I’m aware of theirs.
I have made a big decision and I wanted to share that with you all.
I have decided to live with my phone the way it is. Trust me when I say that it’s more easily said than done. I just can’t keep doing this and take the chance that my kids maybe learning this from me.
I wouldn’t wish this feeling on anyone.
I want to be able to look my boys in the eyes and tell them that things don’t have to be perfect. It’s okay to live with life’s little imperfections. The imperfections make thing more interesting and unique.
If you’ve never dealt with OCD, you can’t imagine how controlling it is and how powerless you feel over your own life.
I’m hoping to lead my boys through this challenge. I plan to do so by leading by example. My boys, their sanity, happiness and safety are way more important than having the perfect screen on my phone.
Keep repeating your last sentence to yourself to stay strong during this struggle: “My boys, their sanity, happiness and safety are way more important than having the perfect screen on my phone.”
There is a book the school used to read to my autistic son and his classmates where OCD was characterized as an annoying flea that can take control of you, your actions and your life. It used a cartoon story to teach them to recognize when they were getting “stuck” on an OCD thought or action and gave them strategies, like alternative things they could do instead. Emmett may be a bit young for it, but Elliot could probably understand it. My son’s school started with this book when he was in 1st grade and continued through 2nd and 3rd with it. It helped alot
, because when he was getting OCDish about something at home I could tell him “you’re letting the OC flea win. Let’s come up with a different strategy”, and it helped sometimes.
Rob–this is not OCD…
Your job is to determine the quality and operation of devices (computers or phones). This is totally natural! You have that discrimination as part of what you analyze with tech devices. I would totally get upset if I can’t see my computer screen in the way it should operate. Heck we pay a lot of money for these things! I love computers a lot so it gets me to the core when something is not working. Right now I have a 2006 HP laptop that has 4 USB ports that stopped getting recognized by the operating system. They were working when Win XP SP1 was installed but they stopped working when I installed SP3…ugghh. I put this on hold to work it later–my current (new) HP laptop works fine.
True OCD is very debilitating to the point of hampering the person’s functioning such as causing harm to oneself or others, sustained lack of sleep for more than a few days, or constant worries about the problem to the point exhaustion or depression. You are on full load with caring for your loved ones and yourself. Give time for just YOU. I think you are doing the best you can given all the circumstances.
By definition OCD is the following: Obsessive-compulsive disorder is an anxiety disorder in which people have unwanted and repeated thoughts, feelings, ideas, sensations (obsessions), or behaviors that make them feel driven to do something (compulsions).Often the person carries out the behaviors to get rid of the obsessive thoughts, but this only provides temporary relief. Not performing the obsessive rituals can cause great anxiety.
I figured that my ritual was taking things back and exchanging them. When I’m in that moment, I can’t imagine not taking it back.
While I’m only this way about certain things, I’m also told that it’s my way of having some control over my life. However, it’s gets to a point with me that it can cause problems.
It also happens more and more as I become more and more stressed.
Once we had dr tell us, about OCD that it you have to spend a few hours a day everyday engrossed in it
It could just be being particular
Working in a autism program we find
That all staff either have. Or develop particulars.
So many staff have their quirks. Lol. Maybe it’s how we relate with the Children so well.
My teacher I previously worked
With was at a workshop that said that it was a good idea to have a noise such as a bell to transition activities. So we would ring bell from free time to next activity.
Well I’m in a new class this year and at tidy up time I always want to find the bell
well as they say the first step is admitting there is a problem,and i would try not to verbalize out loud in front of the boys what is bothering you ,and from what i know about ocd,it is helped by medication and behavior therapy ,basically confronting what is bothering you in longer and longer intervals ,and to have self talk that helps you address what you are feeling ,compared to in realilty what is happening ,like you know your phone is not broke,(maybe not perfect but usable ) The more you become aware of how to control these feeling maybe you can help the boys with theirs and learn to leave things at good enough and not perfect . This will hopefully allow all of you to be happier and more content lives . Maybe your doctor could help you create a script of self talk to help you and the boys to acknowledge the difference of OCD and what is really going on in realilty, (i am not being condisending ,i know the feelings and anxiety caused by this is very real,)But what i have heard the more you give into the OCD it becomes stronger . Best of luck to all of you ,I have found you to be refreshingly honest and that is why your page is so popular,by being honest maybe more people will get help for themselves ! Keep up the great work . Gloria