Putting aside typical gender roles

All this talk about cooking had me wondering something.  Who does the cooking in your family?

In the Lost and Tired family, we don’t have what is likely considered a typical family dynamic.  Because of our particular situation and the overwhelming amount of health issues, we have basically abandoned gender roles.
As the man of the house, I do the cooking, mostly because I really enjoy it.  I also do laundry, dishes and bathe the kids.  I’ve been known to repair clothes and I’m usually the one to go grocery shopping. 

This is because Lizze and I are a team. 

Because of her health issues, she is limited as to what she can physically do.  As her teammate, I automatically pick up the slack and when she’s able to, she does the same for me. 

We have found that special needs parenting requires a great deal more than we have ever thought ourselves capable of. 

Having said that, we have found success by each playing to our strengths. 

How does your family work?

Rob Gorski

Full time, work from home single Dad to my 3 amazing boys. Oh...and creator fo this blog. :-)
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My fiance does most of the cooking for the two of us. I tried to do more previously, but in the last few months my anxiety has spread to encompass things like food preparation and touching unexpected textures and burning myself, and I haven’t got a handle on that yet.
Even when I did more, I didn’t quite do half.


The ‘rule’ at our house is the only people who have to cook are people who like to eat.  Same rule applies to doing dishes.  If you want to eat the next meal – the dishes need to be cleaned.


@MBee that’s a cool philosophy.


My Significant other does the cooking. The man of the house 🙂 It does not bother me one bit. I for one, rather not cook. We have to cook different things for my youngest son who is on the spectrum. He is a very picky eater and not to mention has a milk allergy. Just as your wife and yourself, my finace and myself are a team. We share in the house chores and care for my son. Please feel free to stop by my blog for a quick read on our journeys 🙂


I cook, but mostly because my MIL is a TERRIBLE cook and my husband refused to learn from her.  I organize most of the cleaning, but he helps me about 1/3 of the time.  He also does 50-50 on the rest of child care including baths and such, and gets up in the AM to put our son on the bus.


When both parents are home, we would probably conduct business as you two do.  Since my husband works outside the home I do alot of the “female” lol gender duties.  I gave up my duties as paying bills 8yrs ago, since he makes the money he needs to be aware of our finicial status.  But when he’s home we pretty much share kid duties.


@lyndavisyak very cool. Thank you for sharing