Operation Hope: Where is Gavin?

It’s been awhile since I have updated you all on how Gavin is doing. I don’t talk very often about him right now because I have mixed feelings about this whole thing. 

When you find yourself faced with having to choose between one of your kids and the rest of your family, the line between right and wrong becomes so blurred that it essentially disappears. The fact that Gavin is my adopted son doesn’t make these decisions any easier, I assure you. 

Gavin’s been living with his Grandparents for about 4 months now.  For all intents and purposes, he doing really well. 


Recently, even his health seems to have settled down, at least to my knowledge. 

I hate saying,  at least to my knowledge.  I feel like I should know exactly what’s going on and this situation doesn’t allow for that.

Anyway, he’s doing well in school and at his new home. 

I’m told this is likely because there are less emotional expectations on him.  Having reactive attachment disorder means that Gavin simply doesn’t do well with emotional expectations. Gavin needs to be an only child, at least for now.  It’s the safest thing.

My main concern with how Gavin is doing is the fact that he’s putting on weight, and I mean a lot of weight. 
Right now he’s putting on about 10 lbs per month.  Some may say that’s okay but it really isn’t.  Gavin is overeating and that’s causing the weight gain.  Gavin has no ability to regulate himself and will eat nonstop.  I mean that literally. 

He has to be very, very tightly monitored as far as food consumption is concerned. 

For a normal kid, this weight gain would be a concern but not a huge problem.  In Gavin’s case however, we are trying to maintain a very fragile balance with his medications.  Weight fluctuations can and will throw that balance out the window. 

Some of these meds are very hardcore and if they stop working, we have no recourse. 

We are still working on getting this undercontrol. I know part of the problem is Gavin is a hoarder and will sneak food without asking.  The rest of it will have to still be worked out. 

Overall, as I said, he’s doing well and for that, we are very grateful.  Lizze’s parents have been amazing and mine have as well. 

This is truly a team effort and we are blessed with a great team.  This isn’t a perfect solution but I’m beginning to believe that we will have to ride this horse for as long as we can.  I don’t think that we are going to have a better option. 

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Rob Gorski

Full time, work from home single Dad to my 3 amazing boys. Oh...and creator fo this blog. :-)
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Hi Rob. Gavin stole my heart much the same way I know your heart was stolen by Tim. I saw the youtube videos of him just recently and they had such an effect on me I just cried. My son Khai has Aspergers,ADHD AND ODD.He has meltdowns also, not as extreme and he doesnt self harm . His sister went to live with her dad 3 years ago because of this. he does much better on his own. Please update us on Gavin from time to time. I know Gavin touched my heart in a way I cant explain but I would like to keep in touch and see how he is progressing. Im on Facebook Trish Morrin Australia. Thankyou for sharing your stories. Trish.


I can totally relate to your feelings, not knowing for sure exactly how well Gavin is doing.  My 10 year old daughter was placed in a 2 year residential program back in September and while we visit her at least once a month and bring her home for home visits, its hard not having full knowledge of what is going on with her.  Thank you for sharing so openly your family’s story.


@LeannaGeorge thank you for reaching out. I wish this was easier but we do what we can, with the cards we are dealt. I hope all is well with your daughter. Please stay in touch and I’d love to talk via email if you want to contact me. 🙂


wow. my youngest son could use 10 lbs a month. He’s only in the 2nd percentile. I’m glad to see Gavin has stabilized, health-wise.


@rmagliozzi I’ll see what I can do 😉


This sounds like good news (albeit bittersweet for your family). I would think that it will be hard to convince caseworkers to fund residential care if G is doing so well living at a family member’s house. He is obviously doing well there, so there’s no immediate danger in not placing him. Is Lizzie’s family a long-term option?


@NoThanks2 I’m honestly not sure


Prayers for you. I cannot imagine how hard this situation is on you. I will be sending lots and lots of prayers for Gavin.


@shawneerenee31 thank you very much 🙂