Do your kids hurt each other?

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Elliott and Emmett got into another fight this morning. Elliott got shoved and was coming downstairs to get help.  Emmett was afraid and was doing everything he could to stop Elliott from telling me what happened, including putting his hands around Elliott’s throat. 

When Elliott got downstairs, Emmett ran down the steps, completely freaking out and punching himself in the face. 

I know kids will be kids but this doesn’t feel right to me and I’m concerned. 

Elliott’s fine but Emmett bent his glasses by hitting himself in the face and that scares me. 



I don’t know how to pull everyone out of this and into a better place. Everyone is beyond stressed out and life doesn’t seem to want to cut us any slack or take a break from the constant onslaught of crap it keeps heaving our way.

After talking to both Emmett and Elliott about what happened, I still don’t know what really triggered this event. 

Perhaps they are both overstimulated from Easter already? Maybe they are upset because Gavin’s not here? Most likely, it’s a combination of many things most of which are outside of our ability to control.



Do your kids ever lash out at each other? How do you handle it?

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hudginsvicky

Rob, children fight. And just like anyone else, when tensions are high, or there’s a lot of excitement in the air, they may get on each other’s nerves and lash out. Boys especially are programmed to be physically aggressive. If you lived on a farm and they had acres of land on which to run and play, that might minimize it, but you don’t.  If you had chores they could do to wear themselves out, they might be happy to sit and quietly read a book, but maybe you don’t. So they have a lot of stored up energy. They… Read more »

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America1

hudginsvicky I couldn’t agree with you more!
Kids are incredibly perceptive, and when mom and dad are stressed they totally absorb everything going on around them.
If all the stress and medical maladies could be compartmentalized, I’d bet you would see a marked change in behavior.

lostandtired
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@America1 hudginsvicky you are both totally right. Unfortunately, compartmentalizing is much easier said than done. 🙂

lostandtired
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hudginsvicky you make a very valid point. I have some in things in the works that will hopefully make a difference. I’ll be able to share more over the next few days. 🙂

BRRBTR
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BRRBTR

Rob, Our daughter hits, spits and bites when she is unable to figure out how to show her emotions (or something!?). It IS very frustrating for us, knowing that something is wrong, but being unable to know what it is due to her inability to express herself. I can only imagine how frustrating it is for HER, to know she feels something inside, but not to have a way to let others know – short of hitting and biting. Sometimes it’s even when she’s overwhelmed with happiness! Sometimes it’s when she is sad or mad. Other times – well, we… Read more »

lostandtired
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BRRBTR thank you very, very much 🙂

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rmagliozzi

BRRBTR  I would look into PANDAS and also lyme disease for your daughter. My autistic son is 9 and has both, and would go through these crazy cycles like that. He’d be great, and then regress and it would be sheer hell. Very aggressive behavior as well. Autistic kids with lyme or PANDAS are the ones who regress in cycles like this, typically.

rmagliozzi
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rmagliozzi

yes. Oldest almost kicked the youngest in the face over toys at the haircutting place the other day. I honestly completely seperate them for a full 24 hrs when this happens, though thank God the little one will fight back. Self injury is thankfully not something they do, at last not yet.

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GKMooreBanks

tarasview reality_autism My, my – I think all brothers and sisters and sisters and sisters and brothers and brothers do at some time.

NicoleTozier
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NicoleTozier

I don’t have kids of my own yet, but I do work as a nanny, and while I have not yet discovered the perfect solution, I know what it’s like to have two or more warring children. Now, none of my three have autism, but the two I have the most trouble with are the boys(4 yrs & 6 yrs). I swear, they cannot be in the same room together without fighting, and when something happens, it’s surreal. Like watching some scene out of a movie, with someone’s out-of-control kids, and you wonder how it got that bad? What bad… Read more »