When you have a child like Gavin, life is exceptionally challenging. Any one of his individual challenges would be difficult on most families. The combination of his physical and mental health issues makes things……um…what’s another word for impossible?
Even after having moved Gavin to his grandparents life has gotten any less challenges.
What a lot of people don’t understand is that when you send a child away because of safety issues, like we did, you often times simply trade one problem for another one.
I know that seems counterintuitive but it’s so very true.
Here’s a fee examples of what I mean.
Since moving Gavin out of our house, his health issues have been infinitely more difficult to manage. Without the first hand knowledge of his symptoms, we never know for sure what’s going on and how to address it.
Because of the time and energy involved in caring for Gavin, we have literally tapped out the last of our help. Between my parents and Lizze’s parents, someone always has Gavin. The ones that don’t have him at any given time, are usually pretty spent and aren’t able to offer much in the way of help outside of what they are already doing.
I can’t blame them. I mean, Gavin can be absolutely exhausting, even when he’s doing okay.
The major downside is that the other boys seem to get cut off from their grandparents because Gavin takes up so much of their time and energy.
This is really hard on the boys because they simply don’t understand.
This also translated into almost no breaks for Lizze and I because there’s nowhere for the boys to go. We won’t send them to a strangers house and my siblings are all hands off aunts and uncles.
We can’t even send Gavin anywhere else because of how complex he is. With his medical issues, no one wants the liability and if we could get him someplace, they aren’t qualified to deal with his life threatening health issues that can literally pop up at any moment and often without any warning.
This is really one of those lose lose situations that come along with being a special needs parent.
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