Judgement is something that I think most of us experience at one point or another. As a special needs parent, I experience judgment all too often. I know that I’m far from alone and one of the reasons that I have this site is to try and raise awareness, so that people can better understand the how’s and why’s of being a special needs parent.
I think that in most cases, judgment comes from a lack of understanding. That said, some people are going to be judgemental no matter what.
When you judge someone, you aren’t defining that person. Instead, you are defining yourself or who you are.
I want to think that if people were to become more aware of what goes on behind the scenes or behind the closed doors of a special needs family, they would realize that the absolute last thing we need, is to be judged.
Admittedly, I’m guilty of making judgements myself. While I’m not proud of that, it happens. It probably happens to most of us from time to time.
Having said that, I’ve rarely been known to actually share my thoughts with whomever I’ve judged. My thoughts remain just that, my private thoughts.
I think that it’s pretty normal and even common to make snap judgments or assessments of a particular situation, especially based on face value. However, as we know, what is seen on the surface is rarely the full story. Not knowing the full story makes it really easy to take words, actions, decisions or events out of context.
I really try to be cognizant of the fact that I’m not aware of what it’s like to walk in someone else’s shoes. When I come upon a situation that leads me down the path to judgment, I try to remember that I know what it’s like to be on the receiving end judgement. I try to remember that while the situation may seem pretty clear from where I stand, the fact is, I’m not standing in their shoes and there is almost always more to the story than meets the eye.
If all else fails, I simply keep my thoughts and feelings to myself. Just because a thought pops into my head, doesn’t mean the words must flow from my mouth. 🙂
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