The great "Autism debate" rages on and divide or rift inside the community was the inevitable result. Aren't we all on the same side? Since watching the movie Loving Lamppost: Living Autistic I've been thinking. Why all the "infighting" ? Aren't we all on the same side? Don't we all want the same thing?  I realize that in any debate there has to be two sides and Autism is no exception. We have the “recovery movement” and the “ neurodiversity movement”. Proponents of the “recovery movement” believe Autism is caused by vaccines and/or other environmental toxins. This movement is considered to operateoutside the realm of mainstream science and medicine. There is little or no scientific evidence to support their theory of the origins of Autism. They believe that Autism can be cured…

Anyone that has followed this blog over the past year has heard me talk about Gavin's issues with self-injury. Gavin, when angry, frustrated or extremely anxious will self-injure. We have tried many, many ways of deterring this behavior. Nothing seems to work because he will eventually self-injure again. Autism is a disorder that lends itself to self-injurious behavior. We have learned to not react to him when he does it. However, the problem we are encountering it that his brothers are "modeling" or mimicking this behavior. We CANNOT allow this to happen. I'm very aware that Gavin is struggling right now in EVERY aspect of his young life. While he is struggling, we cannot excuse this behavior. Just because Gavin has Autism does not mean he gets a free pass. In fact…

`~Special needs parenting of children with Autism is a very challenging task. However, when one parent has major health issues those challenges exponentially increase. Sometimes these situations require choices to be made that are far from easy~   I've been pretty overwhelmed all week. Well, let's be honest, I'm overwhelmed pretty much ALL the time. Parenting 3 boys with Autism will have that affect. I have so many thoughts in my head that I want to get out but I can't seem to organize them enough to string two of them together coherently.  Friday was a really challenging day. The Lost and Tired family made some progress but also suffered some pretty major setbacks. Today isn't any better as Lizze can't physically get out of bed today. Friday was full of "to-do"s" for me…

It's ironic that I spend my days trying to help my children NOT lose words from their vocabulary and here I am asking you to lose the word "retard" from yours. In 2011, why do I still hear people using the word "retard" to describe persons with special needs? I personally find it offensive, ignorant and it speaks to the character of the person using it. When the word "retard" is used to describe a person with special needs, it's degrading, dehumanizing and grossly inappropriate. One of the most painful experiences in my life is hearing people refer to my beautiful children as "retards". You wouldn't believe how often it actually happens. It literally takes EVERYTHING in me not respond or even go on the offensive. Those of you with…

Here is the link to my ebay auction. The proceeds go to fixing our van (our only means of transportation) and hopefully covering at least one of Emmett's desperately needed speech therapy sessions. Insurance just reduced his appointments to less then 3 times a month. He was going once a week and NEEDS to go twice a week according to his doctors and specialists. Also 10% of this auction will be donated via ebay to the Northeast Ohio Autism Group. Here is the description as seen here at my auction page: The purpose of this auction is to raise money to help in the care of my 3 Autistic kids and chronically ill wife.  I'm "ptfdmedic" the developer of the very popular midNIGHT ROM for the Epic 4G. I created this ROM for the sole…