When I became a special needs parent (11 years years ago), I realized what most people consider an annoyance is really a blessing. I’m by no means trying to speak for everyone or belittle anyone. When I wrote this, my son Emmett was not able to talk and we weren’t sure he ever would. Having 3 boys on the spectrum is something that changed many things in my life. I find myself, sometimes longing for the little things that most people take for granted or consider a problem. This post is meant to help illustrate what I was feeling. Life is all about perspective and that’s something my journey have taught me.
10 Reasons Why You’re lucky…..But Don’t Know It
1. You’re lucky because you never have to use words like autism, spectrum, bipolar, sensory, anti-psychotic, overstimulated, manic or nonverbal in relation to your children and may not even know what they mean. I’m all too familiar with them and wish I wasn’t.
2. You’re lucky because your kids have friends, even if they could pick them better. Mine don’t have any and that breaks my heart.
3. You’re lucky because your kids curse and are disrespectful. Mine have never said a word and I would give anything to hear him say Daddy.
4. You’re lucky your kids wear clothes even though you can’t stand their tastes. Mine can’t stand the feel of clothes on their skin.
5. You’re lucky you have to take your kids to practice even if you have to drive all over town shuttling them around. I’ll likely never have that opportunity.
6. You’re lucky you can’t get your kids to eat their vegetables. I can’t get mine to stop eating things that aren’t food.
7. You’re lucky your kids have a boyfriend or girlfriend even if you think they are wrong for each other. Mine may never have that experience.
8. You’re lucky your kids break curfew or sneak out to a party. Mine won’t even be invited.
9. You’re lucky to go places on the holidays even if you’d rather stay home or can’t stand your family. We often don’t get to go because my kids can’t handle the holidays let alone the get together.
10. You’re lucky to have extended family and even friends. Many of ours have long since left because our life was too complicated.
-Lost and Tired