I never said anyone was “dishonest” for not sharing their negative experiences,as I have been (mis)quoted as saying. I simply asked why people as so afraid to be more honest about their experience(s). I was simply asking a question and not accusing anyone of anything.
When I say Autism and Aspergers aren’t in the same universe, I’m referring to parenting and challenges and I’m doing so in the general sense. I realize that this is not always the case, and have said that many times before. I was simply trying to make a point. This was never meant to be taken as a blanket statement and certainly not in a diagnostic way.
Something that people seem to be missing is that I’m speaking to my experience. I’m very aware that everyone’s experience can be different. I also know how challenging Aspergers can be. I want to make very clear that I was never trying to create a division as has been suggested and I’m certainly not complaining about my family.
What I find most disturbing is that some people are so quick to dismiss my experience simply because they haven’t been on the receiving end of judgement like this. It’s important to be aware that simply because you haven’t experienced something doesn’t mean others haven’t. Many of you have shared your stories either via email or in the form of a comment. I know that I’m not alone in what my family deals with. Sometimes all the positive attitude in the world can’t overcome the overwhelming challenges some of us face. Having people criticize us for feeling the way we do just makes things all that more difficult.
I know that my attitude no matter how positive or negative it may be, will never change the reality I find myself in. I’m not a negative person, I never give up and I keep my family afloat. Saying anything to the contrary, shows that you don’t really know me or our story.
I’m glad that some people seem to have never experienced the criticism that I and many others have faced. No one should ever have to deal with that. However, having my experience discounted simply because someone hasn’t had that particular experience, is not right. I’m really saddened with how this has all gone down, but it doesn’t change anything. No one has to agree with me. I know this is happening and so do many others.
I also want to say that I have no problems with the person (with whom I have had this little “dispute”) having a difference of opinion. That’s her right and I respect that. However, it was her approach that upset me. We could have shared an email or had a productive conversation about her concerns but that didn’t happen. I have people approach me all the time with a concern about something I have written. Typically, they contact me for clarification before launching a public campaign against me. I would have appreciated the chance to clarify the statements which caused her concerns.
Perhaps, I could have worded things better than I did. Maybe that would have helped to prevent this. However, I was venting my frustration with some recent experiences. I was never given a chance to discuss these concerns and that is what I have a problem with.
When you take someone’s writing and pick it apart and not only take it out of context but also the context of the blog itself, things can get twisted around.
Going forward I will be more careful with my wording because my intention is never to offend anyone. I can’t please everyone and this just happens to be the first time something like this has happened to me. I’m ready to move past this and I hope others can as well. I’m also happy to answer questions that are given to me in a respectful and constructive way. We don’t have to always see eye to eye, but we should handle our differences in a better way.
This is my story and my family’s truth based solely on things that have happened directly to us. I will not apologize for what I wrote, however, I’m sorry that it was taken the way it was. I never intended for it to be picked apart and scrutinized. I’m sorry anyone took offense to this. That was never my goal. I harbor no resentment towards anyone and I welcome a constructive dialogue.
Thank you to everyone for all the support. I truly appreciate all of you. Please keep in mind going forward that everyone deserves to be treated with respect, regardless of our differences. Please end the name calling and personal attacks, I do not condone that and it only makes things worse. 🙂