Lizze and I met with an attorney that specializes in disability claims. He was very pleasant and seemed very competent in this area of law.
However, at this point it seems like bad news. It’s not really even bad news it’s discouraging news more than anything else.
Basically, in today’s economic climate, he won’t take the case because most of her disabling conditions are unprovable. Things like migraines, fibromyalgia and nerve pain are unprovable because there is no definitive test for them.
What he said really makes sense and I don’t disagree with him but at the same time, this is a pretty demoralizing.
Basically, we need to have Lizze reevaluated at the Cleveland Clinic. Essentially, no one will question the doctors at the Cleveland Clinic like they will the local doctors.
The problem with that is we will have to change insurance carriers. This becomes much more complicated with 3 special needs kids that have various specialists, doctors and therapists.
If we change insurance carriers so that Lizze can get the help she needs and/or continue with the disability, the boys will lose some of the current support staff. We will likely have to change pediatricians and the therapists the kids use for OT, PT and Speech…
Lizze is not willing to do that to the boys. I agree that we have the best doctors and therapists right now. While this may not seem like a big deal, but the boys are comfortable with who they are with now. Disrupting that would likely cause at least temporary setbacks.
The question comes down to when do you put yourself before your special needs day?
It’s kinda like the whole chicken and the egg thing. I mean, we always put the boys first but at what point is it in the boys best interest you me or Lizze to put ourselves first.
I’m of the opinion that we change carriers. While PT, OT, and Speech are all important things, in my heart I believe Lizze plays a more important role in our boys life than just about everything else.
Does that make sense to anyone other than me?
I don’t know how or what else do here?