I was driving Elliott to school this morning and he seemed troubled. I asked him what was wrong. He said that he was worried about one of his friends at school.
According to Elliott, one of his friends needs money or a member of their family was going to die.
When I pressed Elliott for more information, here didn’t really have any. Hey didn’t know if the family member was a person or a pet. Hey also said that her thinks they either need surgery or food.
If they didn’t get it, they were going to die.
Elliott wanted to know if he could bring his money to school tomorrow and give it to his friend. I was so proud of his compassion that I was just marveling at the little man he was growing into and hadn’t answered his question.
What was I supposed to say?
I told him that I was so proud of him for wanting to help his friends family and that it was his money and if he wanted to do that than I would help him.
However, I told him that before he did anything that I would need to find out what was going on because I sorta had the feeling that Elliott didn’t have accurate information.
I walked him into school and we spoke with his teacher about his concerns and what he wanted to do.
Apparently, Elliott had either misunderstood what was going on or his friend wasn’t very clear. Either way, his teacher reassured Elliott that everything was okay and that gives friend was just fine. She even suggested that instead of bring in his money, maybe he could make a card.
I just love his teacher’s. She is even going to give him some special time today to work on making a card.
I’m just so incredibly proud of him and grateful that his teacher’s are so amazingly understanding and supportive.
My main concern was not so much about the money aspect but instead, Elliott‘s anxiety. I wanted to make sure I knew what was going on because Elliott would almost obsessively worry about this friend and while I admire that quality in him, he’s just a kid. A kid that already has more than his share of challenges.
I just wanted to share this because I’m so incredibly proud of Elliott. I guess it just goes to show that no matter how badly we feel we are failing as parents, we must be doing something right.
**Thanks for reading**
-Lost and Tired
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