I realize that this is a very sensitive and deeply personal thing, but I thought it might help of we can openly dialog about this.
Let me start off by saying that #Autism alone is not a reason to fear anyone.
Having said that, there may be subsequent behavior that may be scary, for us as parents. This fear can be very real and for very good or legitimate reasons. When our kids are younger, we can better manage the outbursts that can occur, due to various reasons.
However, as our kids become older, larger and stronger, things can very easily become very dangerous.
Sometimes our kids can even become physically violent or aggressive towards their own family. This is something that we have personally dealt with on too many occasions and to say it’s difficult would be a gross understatement.
I think admitting that you are afraid of your own child, regardless of their age, is extremely difficult.
I thought that it might help those of us out there who fear the child we so desperately love, to know that we are not alone. 🙂
**Thanks for reading**
-Lost and Tired
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what do you do when your son pushes you so hard you hit your head on the back of a toilet? do you call the cops on him like everyone tells you to? do you bring him to the ER and drop him off like everyone tells you to? or do you simply love him for who he is?
Hi, we had the same problem where the aggression towards family members was very unpredictable and hard to control. However, we were lucky enough and were given a book "Overcoming Autism" (yellow cover) that is written by psychologist, but in a very simple language that is easy to follow. There is a chapter specifically on that. And it is going to take time to correct it, but it was sure worth it. It took us almost a year to correct that particular aggression and it feels so much better that is no longer an issue. And don't forget to talk to them, even though it doesn't appear that they listen, they do remember it!
In addition, if you have some social skill classes available around in your area, I would strongly recommend it. My daughter hated them as she was referencing to them as 'stupid', but in just a half a year I can see improvements on a simple as eye contact when she talks with others. She is only 10, and we stopped that class as there was a conflict between her and the other student, but I know she got something out of it.
@kat13 thank you for sharing that.
I'm following your developing journey with my prayers and interest! I can't imagine how hard it is to walk this road – must cut your heart in two!@
@HeartsRestored Thank you very much 🙂
as he gets older and bigger, how am I going to handle his explosive rage, especially with my increased health issues and instability?
my most recent post: http://whynotfathers.com/2012/08/a-long-night-med…
@Carlyoung I don't have all those additional challenges but I'm wondering the same thing as well.
I can probably qualify for a job as a SWAT team negotiator with all the de-escalations I do here !! LOL Picking the battles becomes much more important as they become bigger and more aggressive. Learning the earliest signs of his building frustration level has helped me greatly, but I am still afraid when he gets angry. I wish I had known about that HOOK UP exercise to relieve the tension when he was younger. At 19 I no longer can tell him what or how to do anything, he thinks he is grown LOL
@PurpleLogicGlitch I'm not super sure how that works but I believe it has something to do with connecting both sides of the brain. I could be very wrong about that though. I just know own it helps. 🙂
Yes, I have heard that the ASPIE brain needs more left and right brain hemisphere connections.@lostandtired @PurpleLogicGlitch
@PurpleLogicGlitch I knew it was something like that 🙂
Not just scared of their actions, but the potential for it all to spiral out of control with your own reaction(s) to the situation…
@dudgeoh wow.. That was really honest. Your absolutely right. I have been there myself. That's a really, really good point. Thank you so much for sharing. 🙂
@lostandtired I took the opportunity this post presented to mention an unmentionable, that is that even the best of us have a breaking point that can be pushed by a melting down kid.
Ours delights in knocking over furniture, throwing whatever is at hand and getting physical. Whenever we go through one of those episodes, I am often mindful of all the other parents I know, online and offline, who must surely have to deal with the same crap.
@dudgeoh I love your honesty. I just hand to deal with that at my house a few minutes ago. I'm so tired of this but our options are so limited do to his health issues.
At least we aren't alone… 🙂