Not taking out the trash

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Who would have thought?

Gavin absolutely loves cleaning.  That’s right,  he loves to clean.  For the longest time I didn’t really pay attention to this.  However,  I have found that Gavin just has this thing for cleaning. 

Now prepare to have your mind blown because this is going to seem really weird. 

Last night,  Gavin had this huge,  huge tantrum.  We needed to find a consequence that would hopefully send a message.

The thought actually occurred to me that I could withhold taking out the trash but isn’t that the most bizarre thing ever. Who would have thought that taking away chores away could be disciplinary tool. It just seems counterintuitive, doesn’t it?

Now considering Gavin’s personality,  one of two things would likely happen. 

First, it could work. He could actually learn something from this. I know…not very likely.

Second,  we could be playing right into his game.  The thought occurred to me that Gavin may not actually like doing chores in the first place.  This may sound far fetched but I’m sure Carl from WhyNotFathers can back me up on this. 

Gavin has a history of pretending to like something,  for example oatmeal,  in order to manipulate us into not using it anymore. 

Does that make sense?

When dealing with a child that has reactive attachment disorder,  these kinds of things are very,  very possible. 

It’s like one long drawn out head game. 



This was posted via WordPress for Android, courtesy of Samsung’s Galaxy S III. Please forgive any typos. I do know how to spell but auto-correct hate me.

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You are lucky!  He likes to clean?  OMG!  You have the thing you can praise him for!  You can make him the "grand cleaner-upper of the household", the "hero of the day", the "captain cleanly".  You can award ribbons for pro-social behavior, trophies, even.  You have a lever that can be used to bolster his self-esteem AND get the house clean.  That is awesome.     Because, frankly, It sounds as if punishment (removing privileges, etc) is not effectual with Gavin, which makes total sense.  A kid who can't accept responsibility will only look at punishment as a kind of bullying.… Read more »


My son likes to clean also. And mow the grass. He would mow the grass every day if he could. He used to take the trash out for half the block, then take the cans back to the back for everyone. He vacuums and insists on doing the corners with the attachments. He is very good at this stuff and has done it quite some time. However, if you ask him he will say he does not like to do these things. I think they just fill a need for repetition, sameness, activity, noise, vibrations…something like this. He sees the… Read more »