Heartbroken and torn about what to think and feel



Gavin’s “Imaginary friends” are beginning to play a larger and larger roll in his life.  He’s spent a great deal of time in his room today, playing cards with Sonic and Amy’s son Jack.

I showed you all a video of Gavin explaining what he’s doing.  If you missed it earlier, it’s right here.

He’s been back for several rematches. In fact, the last game lasted an exhausting 45 minutes. In this particular session, Gavin and Jack were playing War together.

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I was informed that Jack doesn’t like the fact that Gavin sometimes cheats at cards but Gavin like to tease him.

Keep in mind, Jack isn’t real. He’s not real in the sense that you and I would consider real. However, Gavin certainly considers him to be very real and very much a part of his life for now. 

I honestly don’t know what to really feel about this. 



It’s definitely a problem and there’s no question about that.  However, Gavin’s actually happy and at this point he’s not hurting anyone.  What are we supposed to do with that?

If and when we get his medications right, these friends will disappear, at least until the next inevitable psychotic break.

This Autism Dad is heartbroken and torn as to what to think and feel.

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Michele Sterling

I think you are right, if he’s not hurting anyone, let it be. I understand your feelings about this , it’s got to be hard watching him so engrossed in his “world”. Has he ever invited you to play? Have you ever asked? I don’t know much about the subject but is it possible for him to allow you in to participate?

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I understand your reasoning for having him in his room.  You said earlier he spends a majority of his day there isolated due to issues he has with the younger boys.  As sad as it sounds, this is social interaction he enjoys.  DOes anyone in the home maybe sit down with him and play cardsso that he can possibly have a tangable person to play with.  I grew up an only child and while i know I never saw anyone, I had “friends” because I had no one.  If he has the mentality of a 4 year old like you… Read more »

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I understand your reasoning for having him in his room.  You said earlier he spends a majority of his day there isolated due to issues he has with the younger boys.  As sad as it sounds, this is social interaction he enjoys.  DOes anyone in the home maybe sit down with him and play cardsso that he can possibly have a tangable person to play with.  I grew up an only child and while i know I never saw anyone, I had “friends” because I had no one.  If he has the mentality of a 4 year old like you… Read more »

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Abbe Gates

gosh i would be sad if he were to lose this imaginary world…i have no experience with this, but I feel your heartache …..

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HandbookMomma

Rob, I really don’t know what to say except for that my heart is hurting for you too right now. It’s the whole “damned if you do and damned if you don’t” problem we face. I like DKS3’s comment but I don’t doubt it that you have tried that, I know you guys have been through hell and back with all your boys. Just take your time and enjoy the happiness that your son is experiencing, at least he is interacting with you and being positive about it. In the video you  were showing an interest in his life and… Read more »

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pixelpup2001

Hi Rob, I just found your blog. Boy oh boy, I know so many parents who are Lost and Tired. I know how you feel. My son is younger than yours and from what I’ve been told by parents who have older spectrum kids, the older they get the harder it is to get them to socialize. So a small group of us got together and formed our own socializing group. We spoke a local grocery store and they donated their cooking room and with a volunteer chef taught our older kids to cook over a six week period. For… Read more »

lostandtired
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pixelpup2001 Awesome comment.  Thank you for sharing that.  One minute of smile makes everything worth it.  🙂