Finding the #positive in a really bad situation

Finding the #positive in a really bad situation

Today has been an extremely emotional day because we’re coming off of Gavin in the hospital on Friday and now a less than pleasant Monday.  My God, everyone is on edge this evening. 

As terrible as it is, that the van was repossessed this morning, if this hadn’t happened, I wouldn’t have learned something very important about my two youngest.

I finally fell asleep last night between 4am and 5am.

Next thing I know, Emmett comes running into our room and tells me that the van is gone.  When I looked at my phone, it was just after 5am. A little bit later, Elliott came in and told me the same thing. 

It was still dark and so I wanted to know why they had even looked outside for the van?

I never would have guessed what the reason was and when they told me, I didn’t know what to say.  It turns out that when our first van was stolen in January of 2012, it had a much more significant impact on the boys than I had thought. 

Elliott and Emmett told me this morning that since our old van was stolen, they check to make sure our new van is still there when they wake up every morning. 

Wow…. I really didn’t know what to say to that.  I simply reassured them that everything was going to be okay and that they don’t have anything to worry about.  I would never have known this about them if this hadn’t happened. 

I may have at least temporarily lost our van but I gained some valuable insight into my kids.  I can’t believe that after two years, they were checking to make sure the van hadn’t been stolen.  In grateful for this knowledge because it actually helps me to better understand how my kids work and how something like that can impact them. 

Now that I know that they are still worried about our things being stolen, I can help them to work through that. 

For me, this was absolutely the silver lining in this whole mess. 

It’s not easy to be positive, at least for me.  That being said, I need to focus on what I’m going to do to make this better and being negative about all of this isn’t going to help me do that. 

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I am glad you were able to get their thoughts as i know it is hard for them to tell you. Since I have only NT kids and you have non NT kids i just want to let you know that even though my NT kids could tell me what they thought, they often didnt. they would see a situation that was totally different from what it was. I would find out later about that and so much time went by and i felt so guilty they thought things they didnt need to worry about. long story short is I have been right where you are when it came to my kids thoughts and what i new about them. I was also very glad when i did find out what they thought was incorrect so i could enlighten them. victory!!


Hang in there…a few years ago, I had a student (I teach college writing every so often) whose car was re-possessed during class. The repo-man actually came to the campus, towed the car away, and the student had no way home. I had to break the news to her. It was awful. Hang in there. Hey, on the upside, you will save on gas costs!

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jillhill2 because it’s been 2 years and we knew nothing about this…  Hence surprise


You’ve said many times that your 2 younger kids were profoundly affected by the theft of your first van. I’m not sure why this comes as a surprise.

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