Before I go any further, I want to provide a little bit of background. It’s necessary to fully understand what led up to today’s events.
Emmett is extremely, how shall I put this….picky, about everything. There is a specific chair at the dinner table that Emmett has claimed as his own. It’s the only one he will use and we don’t take issue with that because, well, it’s a bigger picture type thing.
Anyway, every night before we sit down to dinner there is drama because Elliott has Emmett’s chair.
Some of the time Elliott will give the chair back and other times it becomes a blow out.
Basically, this has been creating resentment between the to E’s and makes for an unpleasant evening for everyone……..or so we thought.
We discovered this morning that Gavin has secretly been switching the chairs at some point during the day. How do we know this? We caught him red handed today.
Of course, Gavin claims that this was an accident. However, bardon my French, but that’s bullshit. There is no way this was an accident. Switching the chairs is far to complicated for it to be an oversight on his part.
When pressed, he says he doesn’t know why he’s doing that. Um…..again I call bullshit.
This is a perfect example of what a child with reactive attachment disorder (RAD) does to cause turmoil within the family.
Sometimes it’s very subtle, like with the chairs and other times it’s more obvious, as with the tantrums. Either way, it’s pretty messed up and cannot be tolerated.
Honestly, if we hadn’t caught him this morning, this would have gone on indefinitely.
Once Elliott and Emmett start fighting over the chair, Gavin just sits back and watches them go after each other. Elliott ends up paying the higher price because he ends up getting hit by Emmett during the squabble.
Sure, Emmett is responsible for his actions but is it really his fault? Yes and no.
By switching the chairs, Gavin is knownly pushing Emmett’s buttons. He knows how Emmett is going to react and he does this anyway.
What really scares me and yes it scares me, is what is he doing that we don’t know about?
I mean, something this subtle is hard to notice but causes a great deal of turmoil. What do they we know about?
I almost don’t want to know.
This has to end.
The Lost and Tired family needs help. Gavin needs help. The boys needs relief.
For those of you unfamiliar with RAD kids, this is really hard to wrap your brain around. Honestly, I’m living it and I have a hard time wrapping my brain around this.
We are going to have you increase our vigilance and scrutinize everything he does. That sucks but I don’t know any other way to filter these situations out, at least until he is placed in residential care.
I’m lost, tired, angry, frustrated, overwhelmed and heartbroken. 🙁
This was posted via WordPress for Android, courtesy of Samsungs Galaxy S III. Please forgive any typos. I do know how to spell but auto-correct hate me.
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