I know, this is the weirdest title ever but I promise it’ll make sense. I’ve been an autism parent for almost two decades and I know how easy it can be to lose hope, especially when things are really challenging.
We all need reminders from time to time and that’s okay. encourage you all to find a memory that can act as a touchstone. When things get rough, you can focus on that memory and it will help keep you moving forward.
These memories can be anything and it doesn’t have to make sense to anyone else. We all have something like this in our lives, and mine is scrambled eggs. I know that sounds a bit odd but let me explain.
You all know my oldest son, Gavin. If you have been around for a while, you know that life hasn’t been easy for him. He struggled so much when he was younger and at the age of 22, he’s doing really well. These eggs are important because he made them, all by himself. I didn’t know he knew how to make scrambled eggs but he asked if he could make me some. I said sure.
A few minutes later he carries out a bowl of steaming hot scrambled eggs for me. They were really good and I was as blown away by this simple act that most people take for granted. Gavin, the kid that struggled so much as a child, came close to having to be placed into residential care. The same kid almost died on more than one occasion due to serious medical issues. This same kid was standing in front of me, handing me scrambled eggs that he cooked all by himself, using the stove.
It’s so hard to believe how far he’s come and while I’m aware of the progress, moments like these really put things into focus. If you would have told me that I would be this moved by a bowl of scrambled eggs, I wouldn’t have believed it. Turns out scrambled eggs was the touchstone I needed.
Find that touchstone in your life and let it be a reminder of the good things in your life..
Thanks Cindy. There are areas of his life, especially emotionally where he struggles but he’s come so far and I’m so proud. ☺