You’ve reconciled and put your family back together. Now what? 

After almost 2 years of separation, my wife (Lizze) moved back home and we have finally reunified our family.

It’s been a long, painful journey but it was worth it because we made it through and are stronger for it.  I wish it hadn’t had to happen this way but I think it had to.

Putting our lives back together is no easy task and should be a considered a work in progress. That’s not a bad thing either because after all, life is a work in progress. There’s some complexity to merging our lives back together after so long but having been married for 11 years prior to the separation, there’s a great deal of positive that we can pull from as we build a new future together.

That being said, I wanted to address something that I know can be a problem for many couples out there trying to put their families back together, after some time apart.

While two people can chose to save their relationship and see it only as a positive thing, the people in their lives may not.  These people would include family and friends of both people that make up the couple in question.

More often than not, friends and family only mean well but can very easily have a misguided approach.

I wanted to share a few thoughts with the families and friends of any couples that may be reuniting after having been separated.

When a separation occurs, it’s a very difficult on everyone, especially if children are involved.  It’s the kind of thing that can be very hard for extended family and friends to sorta get over because they are likely on one side or the other of the imaginary line that is drawn when couples separate.

When reunification occurs and families are put back together, even in a better, more healthy way, it’s often tough for those extended family members and friends to forgive and forget.  

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