#Autism Parents – You MUST be selfish

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I’ve been an Autism parent for almost seventeen years. In other words, I’ve done this a very, very long time. Along the way, I’ve learned countless lessons. Unfortunately, many of those lessons were learned the hard way.

One of the most important things I’ve learned is that I have to take care of myself.

When you’re a parent to a child or in my case, children – with special needs, it’s incredibly easy to get tunnel vision. We feel like we have to put every ounce of all we have into our kids. While this is well-intentioned, it’s also largely misguided.



The amount of stress and lack of sleep the average Autism or Special Needs parent deals with is staggering. The worst part about this is that we become so used to living this way, we don’t even realize it’s happening. The impact on our bodies and minds can be significant. This lifestyle is largely unsustainable because we all have our limits.

No matter how much we love our kids, we are still human and are subject to those limitations.
Here’s the scariest but most important question you need to be asking yourself. What happens to my child if something happens to me? I know that’s a chilling notion but the reality is, many of us are living in this exact situation. The truth is, we don’t live forever and our Autism or Special Needs kids will most likely outlive us. There’s nothing we can do to avoid that.

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Excellent information. We have 4 boys, one of whom is HFA. I’m researching a non-for profit group… https://t.co/Cg4gz6SSrE

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As a professional carer of adults who have autism I would say that you have to be selfish to give your children a quality of life in adulthood. Too many times I have seen people locked in secure facilities or unable to go out in public because they have not been taught the basic rules of society. You are doing them no favours by not saying ” no” because they don’t like it. Yes, they may have a meltdown but imagine your child as a grown adult having that same meltdown, consequences are much more serious