I’m so angry and I need to vent

I’m really frustrated tonight and much as I try to not succumb to the negative feelings, I’m unable to at this point.

I put so much time, energy, heart and soul into this blog. While I’m able to help support my family through ads and sponsored posts, the main purpose has always been to help others. Writing is therapeutic for me and without it, I don’t even know where I’d be.

Unfortunately, it appears that someone from my family’s past has resurfaced recently. I know that because we received a lovely message on Facebook, that I can’t help but take as a threat. I was the main target but Lizze and I were both mentioned. The message arrived on Gavin’s eighteenth birthday and if you have been around from the beginning, I won’t need to go into any further detail.

If you haven’t been around, I’ll simply remind you that I’ve raised Gavin as my own since he was about fifteen months old but I was finally able to adopt him when he was in the third or fourth grade. People who went away after the adoption was finalized, threatened to resurface once he turned eighteen.

I don’t want to go into details but the people who were removed from Gavin’s life, were removed for a reason. Those reasons involved multiple forms of abuse and abandonment. Once it was obvious that it wasn’t going to end well for them, rights were signed away and the adoption took place immediately. I know this leaves a lot of questions and someday I’ll do a write up about it for historical purposes however, I will not use names. For now, this is where my explanation ends.

When this person resurfaced last month, I never responded to the message I received and I made sure to block them from our Facebook accounts again. Frankly, I don’t know how they were even able to leave a comment unless they created a new account to circumvent the block.

Anyway, Lizze and I thought it best not to respond because nothing good would come from it.

The Autism Dad Blog was created in June of 2015 and I’ve never once had a single issue with sharing links to my posts on my own personal timeline or my blog page. I don’t post them on anyone else pages, just my own.

Beginning around Gavin’s eighteenth birthday, after discovering the very public message that was sent, all of my posts to my timeline and page are getting reported as spam or offensive. Here’s an example from about a twelve hour period of time.

It’s absolutely ridiculous because I can’t spam myself but once they get reported, they are automatically removed and theautismdad.com gets banned from Facebook. Because I’m not doing anything wrong, all I have to do is appeal to Facebook and request that they put human eyes on my work. Once they manually review my posts that have been removed, they restore them because I hadn’t done anything wrong and no rules were broken. Unfortunately, when the posts get restored, most of the time the links are broken.

I’ve been going back and forth on this with Facebook, every day for over a month now. I can always get the decision reversed but by that time, the damage is already done.

This has been devastating in regards to site traffic and has made it much harder to reach my readers. A side effect of the reduced traffic is that my ad revenue has tanked and that hurts my ability to provide for my family.

There’s no end in site. This very same thing happened to Lost and Tired. It got so bad that blog was banned from Facebook and that was the killing blow.

When my url is banned, Like buttons no longer work and no one is able to share anything of mine on Facebook.

I’m so frustrated and angry at this point. Unfortunately, Facebook is very, very important for networking purposes and without it, thirty-eight percent of my traffic has just disappeared.

I wrote again to Facebook last night and I’m asking if there’s anything that can be done to stop this. I don’t think there is but I could be wrong.

As soon as I hear something back, I’ll share with all of you. For now, if you need or want to be notified of new posts, please register for email updates in the side bar.

I just finished up appealing another half dozen removed posts and I’m not happy right now. I am however, quite tired and I’ll continue the fight in the morning. For now I just needed to vent..

Rob Gorski

Full time, work from home single Dad to my 3 amazing boys. Oh...and creator fo this blog. :-)
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Becky Wiren

Wow, this is terrible! And I guess you don’t get to know who is doing this, or should I say, under what name?

I have an idea. Maybe you should temporarily unblock this person, go to that person’s page, and block every friend on it. Or look for people you recognize who might be helping this douchebag. Good luck!