It has been a little while since I’ve shared a victory. Okay, I know. It’s been a lot longer than a little while, but better late than never.
Today’s victory goes to Gavin, and honestly, he blew my mind with this one.
Gavin has always been heavily influenced by those around him, especially his younger brothers. He picked up Emmett’s habit of constantly asking me if I was okay. I know he means well, but it’s compulsive, and it’s not uncommon for him to ask me a dozen times a day. It gets annoying sometimes because the repetition wears thin, and I’m hearing it from him and Emmett. I try to be patient, but sometimes it’s tougher than others.
Anyway, Gavin walked into the living room today and, like clockwork, once again asked me if I was okay. The repetition was getting a be a lot, and I reminded him, as politely as I could, that he’s already asked me several times.
He told me he was sorry, and I explained that he had nothing to be sorry for. It’s just that people tend to get annoyed when things are repeated to them over and over again. I’m sure there are people in my life who are reading this and saying to themselves, pot, meet kettle. Lol
We’ve had this same conversation countless times over the years, but for some reason, Gavin did something he’s never done before.
Rather than getting angry with himself, he looked at me and said something pretty amazing. He said, instead of asking you if you’re okay, what if I just ask you how you’re doing?
I was impressed. So impressed that I just sat there in silence for a minute before responding. I told him that His idea was brilliant, and I liked it. He got a smile on his face and went back to his room. I just sat there amazed by the brief conversation we just had. Honestly, this was a pretty impressive response from him. I will say that if I’m going to be repeatedly asked the same question throughout the day, how are you doing is so much more tolerable.
I’ve said this a million times before, but it bears repeating. Never underestimate your kids, and take a moment to celebrate the little victories throughout the day. It’s easy to get wrapped up in the daily struggle and focus on the negative. Celebrating the little victories helps us to not only recognize progress but also regain perspective as well.
I’ve lost sight of the little victories in our lives. I get too distracted and fail to celebrate all the things that deserve to be celebrated but I’m regaining some much needed perspective.
I’d love to hear about any recent victories you’ve celebrated in your family. 🙂