When you’re an Autism parent, you very quickly realize that your life will include ungodly amounts of repetition. Your child in the Autism Spectrum may be one who seems to like repetitive behaviors like, asking the same question over and over again. Maybe it’s watching the same part of a movie, over and over again. You get the point..
One of the toughest parts for me is that I have to constantly repeat instructions or directions, especially to Gavin.
There are some things that Gavin picks up very quickly and then there are others, such as personal hygiene and interpersonal skills, that he just doesn’t.
One of the things that I keep having to go over and over again with him are things involving his personal appearance. Things like shaving (yes I know…he’s already fucking shaving and I’m feeling really old) brushing his teeth and cleaning his face are a daily struggle.
I’m so proud of him because he takes the initiative to shave every couple of days but when he shaves, he leaves behind patches of his mustache or beard (it’s not really a beard yet but it’s coming). While I don’t personally care, I’m trying to get him to be a bit more diligent when it comes to his appearance.
Gavin’s doing a lot more on his own and in some cases, that means that he’s interacting with the public.
If he doesn’t get reminded of these things, he will walk into therapy with the pieces of his mustache left unshaven and poking through the toothpaste all over his mouth. Things also collect on his front teeth as a result of his lacking enamel and it can get really kinda gross when he talks.
I don’t want him getting embarrassed or frustrated by having some insensitive asshole saw something or make fun of him. I’d rather him hear from me, so we can work on it together.
I’m working on check sheets for bathroom time and things to do before leaving the house or his bedroom.
Again, he’s come so far but there are still a great many things left to work on and I’m happy to do so. It’s just a shit load of constant repetition and that gets old, for both of us. That said, nothing worth having ever comes easy….