Based on my last two posts, it’s probably not much of a surprise to hear that I’m not in the best place right now.
I’ve reached a point of being so overwhelmed by everything, I feel like I’m frozen in place and just don’t know what to do. I feel crushed under the weight of everything and I know that I’m not going to see any help.
The only help I get is from my parents and there’s only so many ways they can help.
Elliott and Emmett have been much more challenging over the last few weeks and their therapist and I have not been able to really nail down a trigger or cause. There doesn’t even have to be a discernible reason, it could just be one of those things.
We try to identify a stressor or cause because if we do, we can address it and hopefully make life easier for everyone.
I don’t know how to really describe the behavior I’m seeing but it’s sorta like their ADHD meds just stopped working. They’re all over the place and never seem to slow down. They’re a sensory nightmare and I feel like I have front row seats and season tickets to the neverending meltdown.
Maybe it’s the holiday’s or the change in time and weather. Maybe it’s that we are approaching the end of the school year or maybe it’s something else entirely…
I get 2 nights off a month. It’s more time off than some parents get and I try never to forget that but the truth is, those 2 nights really have no impact because it’s not even uninterrupted time to myself. There’s almost always something that I dragged into and it’s not like I can just ignore these things because my kids are involved.
Still, I do get those 2 nights off and I’m grateful for them.
I don’t think there’s any one thing that’s got me dangling from a ledge. It’s probably a combination of things that are occurring or have occurred in my recent life.
It’s really hard to articulate what it’s like to be a single parent to 3 kids with the kind of special needs that mine have. Taken individually, those needs are far more easily met but unfortunately, taken individually just isn’t a possible approach..
I’m stressed out.
I’m in dispair.
These are just a few of the feelings I experience on a daily basis and I imagine that’s something many of you are able to relate to.
The reality is that I do have a support system but it’s less than half of what it used to be. It’s limited in nature but it’s more than what some people have and I’m beyond grateful for whatever help I do get. It’s just not enough to really make an impact.
Here’s the reality of the situation and it’s a situation that far too many Autism parents have to contend with.
There are few things out there that can take the place of an actively involved second parent in the home. That’s just the way it is and unfortunately, that’s not going to change for myself or many others..
I take comfort in knowing that I’m not alone but that limited comfort doesn’t make things any easier.
At this point, I experience feelings of despair because there’s no perceiveable end in sight. It sometimes doesn’t feel like things will ever get better and that’s not a very good feeling.
If you can relate to any of this, please leave a comment and we can chat about our experiences if you want. It might help to connect with someone who gets it…
There’s not much in my life that’s easy. Loving my kids is very easy for me.. Raising them is anything but……