12 things this #Autism Parent will no longer apologize or feel guilty for


As an Autism Parent for over a decade, I’ve experienced all kinds of judgement and ridicule. The world can be a very unforgiving place for parents like me.  We do things that people don’t understand or frankly, misunderstand because it’s what we have to do in order to survive.

I’ve made a decision today and I’m encouraging all my Autism famiiles to do the same thing.

From this day forward, I will no longer apologize or feel guilty for doing what I have to do in order to survive an impossibly difficult and often solutionless situation.

I will no longer apologize or feel guilty for:

– being tired all the time and taking any form of sleep I can get, when I can get it

– putting my kids before things like housework

– allocating my limited resources where they’re needed most, even at the expense of bills

– not being able to attend your function because I can’t find a sitter and my kids won’t handle the stimulation well

– taking my kids out in public, knowing that they could disturb someone with a meltdown

– having a utility service shut off because the money for that bill went to pay for therapy that insurance wouldn’t cover

– putting my kids on medication that I feel is in their best interest

– going to an IEP meeting armed to the teeth with adrenaline, fierce determination, witty one liners and if necessary the aggression of a grizzly bear

– my kids with Autism not completing their homework on time or at all because homework for some kids with Autism is ridiculous

– bringing a list of my worries and concerns to an appointment and not leaving until we’ve discussed them

– not having the patience for unsolicited, ignorant parenting advice and the people that force it upon me

– sometimes putting myself first because if I’m don’t take care of myself, I can’t take care of my kids

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Jimmy Rock
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I’m sure you realize that with respect to a number of things on your list, any guilt or need to apologize you’ve felt is irrational, but that’s how these things go sometimes. You can’t control those feelings sometimes even when you know better… And as for some unsolicited and (hopefully) non-ignorant advice — you talk all the time about your lack of sleep. That’s got to be one of your biggest challenges. I think if there was a way to mitigate the sleep issues at least a little bit, you could be better equipped, mentally and physically, to deal with… Read more »
Rob Gorski
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Jimmy… Once again your way with words is amazing. You’re right on the money. Truthfully, I don’t care what anyone says, as long as it’s done tactfully and with a tiny bit of respect. For me, it’s never really been about what someone said but rather how they said it. ☺ Sleep is vital for every aspect of one’s life and without it, everything takes a hit. As for the rough patch….. Yes and no… I’ve been holding back on many things because I was trying to differentiate The Autism Dad from Lost and Tired but in doing so, I’ve… Read more »
BJW
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You are obviously trying to live the best life you can for your family. I’m just sorry that you don’t have more help.

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