How I’m dealing with my son’s bully

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I’ve been largely absent the last day or so because I’ve been busy. Most everything can wait until a bit later today, but I did want to talk briefly about the bullying situation at school.

I met with the school this afternoon and had a thirty-minute discussion about what’s going on with Elliott and this bully.

While I’m not happy at all, I will say that since I know how to handle this and who to talk to, the process is much easier.

The person I spoke with today is very genuine, and I truly believe that she’s as horrified about this as I am. In fact, she may even be more upset than I am and I’m pissed off.



We decided that she would meet with Elliott on Monday and talk to him about everything. She wants to make sure he feels safe and that he knows he can stand up for himself without fear of getting in trouble or having points taken away by his teacher.

I suggested that if Elliott was okay with it, perhaps she could sit the two of them down and figure out what the fuck is going on. Since they used to be good friends, maybe we can figure out what the kids got against Elliott.

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Once we identify the problem, hopefully, we can work through it. This, of course, assumes that the kid isn’t just an asshole. I don’t think he is and I have hope that this can be resolved and maybe even a friendship restored.

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  • I think that the best option is for you guys to back Elliot and if you actually see what is happening between the bully and your son, you might be able to get the bully in more trouble.
    I think that the bully should be expelled from the school. If not then as i suggested home school both your sons. They might find it easier

  • Marc Tomor Marc Tomor says:

    I hate bullies….. If my son wasn’t on the spectrum,I’d tell him the same thing I told my daughter….. Don’t start it,but if it comes down to it, finish it….I got your back. Forth grade,some boy twice her size kept pushing her down on the playground….My wife gets a phone call around noon and goes down to the school to find ole fat boy with an ice pack on his nose… God I wish I would’ve been able to make that one lmao…..Guess what?…No more BS from him anymore……

  • I think that the best option is for you guys to back Elliot and if you actually see what is happening between the bully and your son, you might be able to get the bully in more trouble.
    I think that the bully should be expelled from the school. If not then as i suggested home school both your sons. They might find it easier

  • Marc Tomor says:

    I hate bullies….. If my son wasn’t on the spectrum,I’d tell him the same thing I told my daughter….. Don’t start it,but if it comes down to it, finish it….I got your back. Forth grade,some boy twice her size kept pushing her down on the playground….My wife gets a phone call around noon and goes down to the school to find ole fat boy with an ice pack on his nose… God I wish I would’ve been able to make that one lmao…..Guess what?…No more BS from him anymore……

  • My take on this…. You are enabling your son, with the correct tools, to face life! And yes sometimes , some of our kids need extra support, you are not just responding off the cuff, or burning bridges in anger.
    I think that is awesome!!!! Over the years, for us, there have been repeated issues with bussing ( not a bullying issue) and in the past a different school issue. And I have other kids still at the one school — so for their sake and mine- no bridges could be burned. However– I did manage to make myself the kind and gracious squeaky wheel!!!
    I appreciate hearing where you are coming from. Knowing what you all face daily…. Mad respect.
    Fellow autism, ptsd, and more family 🙂

  • My take on this…. You are enabling your son, with the correct tools, to face life! And yes sometimes , some of our kids need extra support, you are not just responding off the cuff, or burning bridges in anger.
    I think that is awesome!!!! Over the years, for us, there have been repeated issues with bussing ( not a bullying issue) and in the past a different school issue. And I have other kids still at the one school — so for their sake and mine- no bridges could be burned. However– I did manage to make myself the kind and gracious squeaky wheel!!!
    I appreciate hearing where you are coming from. Knowing what you all face daily…. Mad respect.
    Fellow autism, ptsd, and more family 🙂