It’s important to understand that none of this is your fault. Blaming other people and or things isn’t going to help either. Nothing you do is going to undo an Autism diagnosis.
The best thing you can do is accept the diagnosis for what it is and begin to move forward. Until you do that, you’ll be stuck in a place where nothing good can come from. You owe it to yourself and your child to focus on what you can control and you won’t find that in the past.
Put your efforts into learning everything you can about Autism. Connect with other Autism parents who can help guide you through. It may not occur to you but there are many adult Autistics who can be an unbelievable resource. They have helped me out countless times and I can’t stress that enough.
The whole point is that there’s plenty of things in life to feel guilty about. We all make mistakes and do things we later feel guilty for, our child being diagnosed with Autism should never be one of them.
Before I leave, I didn’t get into all the amazing things you’re going to experience as an Autism parent. Trust me, there’s plenty of amazing when it comes to kids on the Spectrum. I’ll focus on that in another post. For now, focus on getting your feet underneath you, taking a deep breath and moving forward. ☺
That implies that there is something wrong with being autistic
Then why is it [Autusm] listed as a possible sideffect of certain vaccinations?
Well, learning Jacob had Asperger’s after he was an adult was difficult. It did explain why he had trouble in certain areas. I’ve also had to learn to argue reasonably…no yelling.
And here’s a funny thing. It helped me some to find out I had mild Asperger’s syndrome last year. It helped explain some puzzling things about myself. In the end, people with autism are people, just like the neurotypical are. We are all different. It doesn’t help that our society only values certain things that tend to marginalize the disabled.
Thank you for sharing. Lizze is in the same boat with Aspergers. I get it. I just hate when people blame themselves, blame the mothers, blame doctors or anything else. It’s Autism. It is what it is and there’s still an awesome kid to love, raise and appreciate.. ☺
Well, learning Jacob had Asperger’s after he was an adult was difficult. It did explain why he had trouble in certain areas. I’ve also had to learn to argue reasonably…no yelling.
And here’s a funny thing. It helped me some to find out I had mild Asperger’s syndrome last year. It helped explain some puzzling things about myself. In the end, people with autism are people, just like the neurotypical are. We are all different. It doesn’t help that our society only values certain things that tend to marginalize the disabled.
Thank you for sharing. Lizze is in the same boat with Aspergers. I get it. I just hate when people blame themselves, blame the mothers, blame doctors or anything else. It’s Autism. It is what it is and there’s still an awesome kid to love, raise and appreciate.. ☺