Sometimes it’s important to step back and take inventory of one’s life. This could be necessary for a multitude of reasons.
I have honestly forgotten to do that myself lately. In fact, I haven’t done this since I became a single parent.
When you’re any type of parent but especially if you’re a special needs parent, it’s really easy to focus on the things you don’t get right or the things that maybe slip through the cracks.
It’s really easy to login into Facebook, read the random updates in your feed and feel really depressed about where you are in life or that you can’t do better by your kids than you’re currently doing.
This is why I encourage you to take inventory.
I struggle with depression and I also feel unbelievably guilty that I can’t do more for my kids than I’m doing.
The problem is that I’m comparing what I feel are my weaknesses to everyone else’s strengths.
I also get so used to the challenges I face on a daily basis that I often forget they are there.
The reality of my situation is this:
I’m raising three incredibly amazing children. While they are truly amazing, they’re also amazingly challenging at the same time.
Two of the three are poster kids for ADHD and extreme anxiety.
All three have sensory processing issues that are considered to be severely impactful on their daily lives.
Two of the three have asthma and one of those two has a serious food allergy.
One of my three has extremely fragile health, both physical and emotional and breaks the mold in all areas of his life to the point where places like the Cleveland Clinic have never seen a child like him before.
Things like severe immunodeficiency (basically he has a severely compromised immune system requiring two weekly infusions), epilepsy, significant autonomic dysfunction, significant and continuous regression across most areas of his life.
On the mental health side it’s things like Schizoaffective disorder, bipolar disorder, attachment disorder, Childhood Disintegrative Disorder (a very rare form of regressive Autism) and a few other serious diagnoses that I believe might be inaccurate as he’s made a hugely positive turn around since his Mom left.
I live in a neighborhood where they can’t play outside because of drive by shootings and gang activity.