Putting My #Autism Family Back Together: Understanding The Last 19 Months (Part One)

You can find Part Two here: https://www.theautismdad.com/2016/07/01/putting-my-autism-family-back-together-what-happened-and-why-part-two/

 

Look, I get it.  You’ve all experienced the last 18 or 19 months with the boys and I through my blog.  I’m so grateful for the outpouring of support during what was often, a very difficult time.

Since announcing a few weeks ago that my wife and I have reconciled, there’s been some backlash.  While I understand that most of said backlash is well intentioned and simply out of concern for myself and the boys, you needn’t worry.

It’s really hard to have a true understanding of what happened because I never shared all the details because I was trying to do the right thing and I felt it was best for the boys in the long run.  Having said that, I feel as though that approach has caused some confusion and in some cases, even some misunderstandings about what happened.

I need you to please understand and respect that you will not have all the nitty gritty details because there’s still a need for privacy.

I also need you all to remember the nature of this blog and my style of writing because sometimes it’s easy to forget that there’s a great deal of unprocessed, raw emotion behind my words.  You will at times, have almost real-time access to what I’m thinking and feeling in the heat of the moment.

Having said all that, I want to help you understand what happened and why things are better now. This will likely be a two part post because of its length, so I’ll start with clarifying things that took place of liver the last 18 months or so.

When moved out in October 2014, I was completely shocked. I was caught off guard and quickly became an emotional mess.

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I knew something was wrong because the changes I was seeing were coming from the woman I’d spent almost half my life with. I know her better than anyone else in the world does and I knew something was very wrong. That wasn’t something I effectively conveyed publicly, although I did try but within the confines of my private life, I have stood by that assertion from day one.

There was a great deal of confusion/emotion and it took time before Lizze and I were really even were able to have a productive conversation because I was very focused on wanting to help and she wasn’t yet in a place where she recognized that she needed it.



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  • Sarah Elizabeth

    It’s always good to hear of families getting back together. I wish you happiness!!

    • If I could like this a million times I would. 🙂

      Thank you so much. I truly appreciate it.