Yes my kids have #Autism but they’re still accountable for their decisions and actions

We had some issues with before even getting home from this afternoon. He was reminded that there is no tablet or Xbox until his is done and of course that led to him freaking out. 

This morning, Elliott was very disrespectful to both and myself. As a result, we took away screen. This meant no tablet or Xbox after school. 

We decided to allow him to earn them back by doing his homework. He has to do his homework anyway but he doesn’t like to do it until after dinner, despite Lizze and I trying to have him do it right after school. 

Anyway, he was free to play his tablet or Xbox but he had to do his homework first. 

That pissed him off but the reality is that his homework takes less than ten minutes and he was free to still do it after dinner but he wouldn’t have screen time back until it was done. 
Not only did this benefit him tremendously but it was also an attempt to help him learn to better adapt to situations like this because he’s typically very ridged. 

There was a massive meltdown when we got home that lasted for awhile but he did eventually choose to do his homework and received his tablet back as promised. 

It would have been so much easier for him if he had just done his homework right away rather than freak out. He could have literally been done in under ten minutes and back on his way. 

I’d like to think that a lesson was learned but I’m not sure about that. 

While he’s Autistic and struggles a great deal with , there’s also a part of him that’s just a normal kid. That fact alone makes managing his behaviors that much more difficult because we can never know of for sure what behavior is caused by what. 

This is just one example of how we’re trying to crack down on certain things and modify some of the behavior that’s become problematic. 



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  • I haven’t been following much lately – sorry- but am now. Anyhow – I had it stated in my IEP that no was given. I think you talked about this in the past, but can’t remember. The fights about homework – even 10 minutes of homework – were not worth anything that was accomplished by getting the homework done! It is not worth it. Yes, our autistic kids are accountable, but as for homework – I did not want to fight that battle. Life was SO much better after it was put in his IEP that we did not have homework.

    • I totally agree and it’s nice to hear from you… We are picking this battle at the recommendation of his therapist. We’ve modified it and he only has maybe 5 to 10 minutes of a night. The get their homework on Monday and it’s due Friday

  • I totally agree and it’s nice to hear from you… We are picking this battle at the recommendation of his therapist. We’ve modified it and he only has maybe 5 to 10 minutes of a night. The get their homework on Monday and it’s due Friday

  • I have 2 kids with Asperger’s. They were born in 1977 and 1981. I always knew something was wrong with them, but didn’t figure it out until they were 24 and 20. I wish I could have had the awareness that is now. Reading about parents with autistic kids is really therapeutic for me. When I finally realized my oldest daughter had Asperger’s, I felt so vindicated! It wasn’t my fault. I just wandered on to your blog from pinterest. I like your perspective, so I’ve signed up to follow. Thanks for your insight. BTW, my children are 38 and 34 now and they are wonderful people. I’m very proud of them. They still have Asperger’s and its traits, but they are doing well!