We’ve spent a bit of time speaking with Elliott this weekend. It would be fair to say this has been a rough couple of days for him. It’s pretty obvious that something is upsetting him but getting to the bottom of what that is can be tricky. Elliott will list things that bother him but they aren’t necessarily what’s bothering him. Does that make sense?
Long story short, while we were discussing going to the after school program in December, Elliott mentioned that he’s getting picked on at school.
This wouldn’t be the first time we’ve heard this but it’s really the first time that I’m beginning to suspect that there’s more going on than we are aware of. Elliott’s a really sensitive kid and so he can take an otherwise innocuous comment and feel as though he’s being teased or made fun of. We see that at home all the time and that makes it difficult to sorta weed through all this.
We’ve spoken to the school in the past and everything has always checked out. That being said, something’s still going on and whether or not it’s actually bullying, it’s upsetting him.
First of all, we’re going to take a deep breath and put aside the initial feelings of wanting to crush the shit out of whoever might be picking on our son. Cooler heads will prevail and going in half cocked, won’t do anyone any good.
The first step will be to make direct, face to face contact with his teacher and do so in a nonaggressive fashion. I’m aware that bullying can sometimes fly under the teacher’s radar. We will bring up names of anyone we’ve heard things about and find out if they are seeing any problems between Elliott and these kids.
Based on what we learn from this, our next move will vary.
I’m guessing that we are going to hear something like Mr. Gorski, we haven’t noticed any problems. To which I’ll respond with something like, we would really appreciate it if you would please keep a close eye on the situation and let us know if anything changes.
After this, we will meet with the principal and make sure he’s aware of the concern as well. This will help to ensure that we don’t get brushed aside or our concerns lost in the shuffle.
This school is a charter school for kids with Autism and ADHD. If Elliott is being teased or picked on, it may very well be the result of someone not understanding that Elliott is upset by their actions or words. I don’t believe there are any criminal masterminds in his class that are plotting to make Elliott’s life at school a living Hell. I don’t mean any disrespect by that either, it’s just the reality of the situation.
The last step before we follow up with the school staff later in the week will be to let Elliott know that we’ve spoken to the school and they are going to be keeping an eye on the situation.