I know it’s easy to read this and assume that the school is in the wrong. That’s not what I’m necessarily trying to say. The problem is much bigger than just one school, it’s how we address bullying in general.
Look, I love this school. I do overlook certain things that I don’t agree with because the overall experience for my kids has been amazing. Having said that, I do not believe this is being handle well and I will not stop pushing until we get to the bottom of this.
There are indirect ways in which this could be dealt with.
1) Maybe they could set aside a day and have a speaker come in to educate the kids about bullying, what it is and why it’s unacceptable. The kids could learn to be empowered by learning ways of dealing with bullies. They could also talk about what they could or should do if they see someone being bullied. That would help to address the problem without having to single anyone out.
2) I certainly believe the teachers could use an in-service on bullying. How to recognize bullying and what to do when it’s discovered.
3) Maybe even have the next family event be centered around bullying and talking to your kids about bullying.
I would be thrilled with that kind of resolution because I guarantee Elliott’s not the only one in the school dealing with something like this.
The bottom line is, I’m really frustrated and I feel like this isn’t being taken seriously. There’s enough evidence to at least pull the kid aside and talk to him about this. Not doing so simply emboldens someone who already seems to get away with everything as it is. What kind of message does that send to Elliott? What kind of message does it send to the kid who’s been bullying him?