Dipping into my reserve of patience

I mentioned yesterday that Emmett was not doing well in school. I was caught off guard because I thought he was doing great, and academically he is. Unfortunately, he’s struggling emotionally and didn’t want to tell me because he was afraid I’d be disappointed.

Last night I emailed his school guidance counselor and explained what was going on. She emailed back this morning and said that they were going to process Elliott and Emmett’s transfer request together. I also heard back from Dr. Pattie, the boy’s therapist. She is forwarding the letter today.

I hope we can get this all done before the end of the week. I don’t want this floating out there for too long, and the boys need to get started on their new routine.

This was a stressful couple of days, but it should be said that part of being a parent means we have to handle unexpected situations when they arise. When you have autistic kids, you tend to experience those unexpected moments more frequently, and it’s easy to get frustrated or overwhelmed. It’s important to remember that life is not always predictable and that our kids are probably experiencing whatever we are but with greater intensity.

We may have to dig into our reserve or patience, and that’s okay. Remember that you are human and have limits to what you can deal with. You’re allowed to be frustrated or feel any other emotion. What matters is how we choose to deal with said emotions. Keep in mind that as hard as it may be for you, it’s probably even harder for your autistic kiddo.

If you need to take a break or catch your breath, that’s okay. Slow and steady wins the race. Love, empathy, and patience will go a long way toward navigating those unexpected moments in life.

Trust me; I’ve had to take some deep breaths this past weekend. I was overwhelmed with having to make significant, unexpected changes to not one but two of my kid’s educational journeys. I allowed myself to experience those feelings, and I was able to seek help, form a plan, and put it into action. Both boys are experiencing a great deal of relief and are anxious to get started with the online academy. Emmett can still try out for bowling and join any clubs he may be interested in. Elliott can do the same but has no interest.

As for Gavin, he’s currently spending the afternoon with his grandmother at the movies. He needed the time away from the house, and he’s been looking forward to seeing the new Dragon Ball movie for some time now.

After I finish up here, I will be hitting the gym and forcing some self-care on myself. Work is going great, and I feel really good about that. I have at least six interviews scheduled over the next week. I’m excited about them because I think these conversations will be helpful to parents. Also, I’m being interviewed on a few shows this month. There are currently three of these on the calendar and a few more in the works. I’ll be sure to share all that information when I have it.

Have a great afternoon.

Rob Gorski

Full time, work from home single Dad to my 3 amazing boys. Oh...and creator fo this blog. :-)
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