I can’t change what happened but I can adapt and overcome

Divorce is never easy and there are always unforeseen consequences. The goal is to limit those consequences, and shield the kids from as many grownup issues as humanly possible. It's only been a week since my wife left and I'm already facing challenges that are very limiting by nature. One of the biggest things that have come up that impacts me directly is that I can never go anywhere alone. Until about two weeks ago, I was walking every single day. I was able to sneak away for an hour and exercise, because the kids were at home with their Mom. I never was gone for extended periods of time because that can be very challenging for anyone to deal with, especially someone with all the health issues she is…

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6 Los Angeles Airport Hacks Every Traveler Needs to Know

Traveling to Los Angeles Airport any time soon? Spare yourself from Lax parking headaches upon arrival. Keep on reading and learn from the tips we’ll share to get rid of common nightmares that inexperienced travelers commonly make. 1. Book a Parking Spot Booking an LAX parking spot saves time and money. You can bring your car to the airport, which also means that you won’t need to go through the hassle of booking a cab to go home when you get back from your travel. These days, booking an airport parking spot is easy. Check out ParkON.com to secure a guaranteed spot when you arrive. While doing additional research for parking at LAX I stumbled upon a new website that I enjoyed called parkingaccess.com. Lots of parking options and very simple and…

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Decluttering with Kids in the House

There are two things in this world that almost anyone can say are stressful: raising children and keeping the house tidy. More often than not, a messy house and children go hand in hand. Now, let’s add one more piece to this puzzle that already has you pulling your hair out: you want to sell your house. Fret not, doing all of the above at the same time isn’t impossible. However, it will take a lot of work, patience, and strategizing. Today, we’re going to conquer the impossible and show you decluttering strategies to use with kids in the house so that you can get through your home’s sale with ease. Keep the kids busy, but not too busy We’re being honest when we say that kids are messy. If…

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Why I’m seeking help from a therapist

Today at 1pm I will be starting my second therapy session with my new therapist. The first session was literally the morning after my wife left and not much was accomplished aside from me unloading everything that I was feeling. I think I caught my counselor off guard. I feel like this therapist might be a good fit for me personally and that's important. I was such a hot mess last week that I didn't even get the paperwork filled out. She asked why I was there and the floodgates opened and she went with it. I really appreciated that. She suggested that we finish the paperwork next time. I feel like I'm in a better place today because I've had a week to begin wrapping my brain around all…

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It’s been 1 week since my marriage ended and here’s how we’re doing

Today marks one week since our lives changed forever and things haven't been easy for us. When something as impactful as a parent moving out happens, there's a ripple effect. I think considering everything that's going on, the kids are doing okay. They're each dealing in their own way and the only one who's not phased either way is Gavin. Emmett is struggling, as is Elliott. They do so in different ways. Emmett won't sleep in his bed right now and glues himself to me at night. I've told him that we need to work on getting him back in his own bed but if for right now he needs this, it's absolutely okay. Elliott just kinda shuts down and pretends like everything is okay. It's pretty obvious that he's…

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Better late than never I suppose

The boys and I had a pretty decent day yesterday. There were ups and downs but all things considered, I'm tossing it into the win column. I meant to update everyone last night but I was exhausted and didn't get around to it. My main focus for today is to get Gavin's labs done and his Clozapine refilled. It's been a nightmare trying to get his Clozapine refilled over the last few months. The lab never faxes the results like they are supposed to and the pharmacy doesn't seek then out until I call about his script. It's not their fault. They're at the mercy of the lab. It's just incredibly frustrating. Aside from his labs that need done, he will also need his IVIG Infusion done today as well.…

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Trying desperately to not let their summer be defined by the collapse of my marriage

As the summer winds to a close, it was very important to me that the last major experience the kids had before school starting, wasn't their lives being turned upside down when their Mom left. Emmett has been really stressed out in particular because he's convinced that he will have to write twelve sentences about his summer and he didn't want to have to talk about what happened. While I seriously doubt anyone would make him talk about what happened in front of his class, I understood where he was coming from and so did my parents. Lizze and I had been planning to take them to the Great Lakes Science Center before school started and that was still the plan, only less one person. My Mom and Dad decided…

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I’m hoping this short trip helps us get our footing

We're on our way to Cook Forest State Park. We'll probably arrive around 11 AM and the boys are really excited. I'm not feeling so well this morning. It's not that I'm sick, I'm just heartbroken. The truth at its most fundamental level is that I miss my wife. This is really hard for me because I have to be strong for the kids but at the same time, I've also lost my best friend. I don't really know what to do anymore. Every part of me is grieving and it's sometime hard to hold it together. In a way, I feel like it's good for the kids to see me grieving at times because it's a reminder that they aren't alone. This is devastating for all four of us.…

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