Read more about the article My most important job is guiding these amazing humans through life
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My most important job is guiding these amazing humans through life

The boys have had a pretty good day today. I wanted to try and do something kinda fun, so when I ordered groceries, I added some things to the list that we could cook on the grill. It's nothing spectacular but it's a change of pace and the boys love cooking on the grill. Emmett physically went to school today for in person learning and had a fantastic day. Elliott is still remote learning full time because his school hasn't reopened and won't until the fall. Gavin approached me this afternoon about learning some new skills that he thinks would be useful for when he moves out. I was kinda caught off guard by his request, and some of the things he wants to learn are sorta random, but I…

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May 20, 2021
Read more about the article Helping my kids remain open to positive change and willing to embrace it, even after they’ve been hurt
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Helping my kids remain open to positive change and willing to embrace it, even after they’ve been hurt

It's been an incredibly emotional evening, especially for the kids. I had to make a difficult decision tonight, but it was the right one. I'm completely physically, and emotionally exhausted now. The kids are very upset but I'm working to help them remain open to positive change, and embrace it, even after they've been hurt. The boys are doing okay at this point. Emmett's currently in his own bed, which is amazing, and with any luck, he will remain there. Gavin's already asleep and Elliott won't be too far behind. As I was writing this, Emmett popped his head in to inform me that he wants to do in-person learning again in the morning, which is awesome. Although, I just remembered that his clothes are still in the washer. I'll…

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May 19, 2021
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Emmett kicked ass today!

Today is a pretty big day for the kids. They have a pretty important therapy session tonight and that will help to chart our path forward. I'm going to try and touch base with the therapist before the boys meet with her tonight because I have some thoughts that I don't want to bring up in front of the kids. Getting through tonight is the bulk of the weight I'm carrying today. I can't wait to put that down and move forward. Anyway, there are some very positive updates to share with you as well. I try very hard to focus on the positive and these things definitely qualify in my book. Emmett slept in his own bed for the entire night. I can't even remember the last time that's…

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May 18, 2021
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I have several challenging goals this week

My goal for this week is a couple of things. I have a podcast episode to finish up by Friday, we're prepping the outside of the house for painting, finishing out the last week of school, getting the kids moving forward after some difficult decisions were made, and getting business back up and running. That sounds like quite a bit and it actually is but they're all necessary. Some are necessary evils, while others are just necessary. The two weighing most heavily are getting business back to pre-COVID performance and helping the boys get passed this stuff with their mom. Getting business back will allow us to move and getting the kids through their through their current situation will help all of us to move forward. None of this stuff…

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May 17, 2021
Read more about the article I’m going to open up a little about my life after #divorce
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I’m going to open up a little about my life after #divorce

The weekend got off to a rough start but I'm feeling so much better. The kids don't have school today so everything is kinda thrown off as a result. It actually feels like a Sunday. I keep getting work emails that never come on the weekends and I have to keep reminding myself that it's Monday. Yesterday was my nieces first birthday and since everyone is vaccinated, we were able to get together and celebrate. It was so nice and I really liked visiting with everyone. The boys love playing with their little cousins and it helps me to see that life is moving forward. Speaking of moving foward, I went on a date yesterday evening, and I had a nice time. It was super simple and we just met…

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May 17, 2021
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Alone Time

So the boys are at their mom and grandparents house for the night and I've had majority of the day to myself. I took the kids out to get their mom and grandmother something for Mother's Day. I'm really glad the kids got to go over for the holiday. Lizze and I will never be best friends but regardless, she will always be the mother of my children. That commands a certain level of respect that transcends things like divorce, disagreements, and pretty much anything else that life can hurl at us. I've said this a million times but you don't have to like or even be friends with your kids other parent, but you do need get along, and be a team, devoted to raising good humans. The kids…

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May 9, 2021
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Comfort Zone

It's been a rough four or five days but I've felt great all day today. By great I mean, not sick. I'm still tired and dealing with some insomnia but I didn't feel sick. I think I'm finally on the other side of this and while I wouldn't do this for shits and giggles, because it sucked, I would absolutely take the vaccine again, even knowing it would kick my ass three weeks later. I was kind of in a fog for some of this and I don't remember everything but I know without question, that I would do it all again if it were necessary. I had a really good day. I was able to get some writing done and that's awesome. I don't mean nonsensical stuff like this…

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May 4, 2021
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Letting Go

I tried writing this big elaborate post on letting go, but I can only get so far because it becomes overwhelming, and I get stuck. Instead, I want to keep this simple and talk briefly about something I'm going to be focusing on this week. I've been talking a lot about self-reflection lately. Recently I have begun taking a personal inventory and identifying things that I need/want to work on. This week, I'm focusing on letting go. Honestly, I'm no stranger to letting things go. My 17-year marriage ended two years ago, and I've learned to let that part of my life go. It's clearly for the best, and I've accepted that. I'm happier and in a far better place now. I'm grateful for it, but if I hadn't been…

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May 3, 2021