I wanted to take a few minutes and talk about something that I will admit to being frustrated over. Actually, frustrated probably isn’t the right word but it’s the closest I can come up with at the moment.
When you read the words on this blog, you’re gaining insight into my life. Through me you’re gaining insight into the lives of my family as well.
The purpose of sharing this is to help people understand what life is like for one Autism family. My family.
The reality of the situation is that my family faces unique and very often, significant challenges on a daily basis. A great many of these situations are of a nature that renders them extremely difficult (if not impossible) for many people to understand. At the same time however, that same nature that makes our life very difficult for many to understand, makes my words instantly relatable to a great many others because they face very similar challenges in their own life.
It really is easy to sit back and judge or make assumptions based on what you read, especially without the personal experience to help put things into proper context. That’s perfectly understandable and I can’t fault anyone for not understanding because frankly, I don’t always understand either and it’s my life.
I guess the point I’m trying to make is this.
When you visit The Autism Dad Blog, you are reading words that are describing the life my family is actually living. You’re reading about the challenges, heartache and pain that my family is facing. You’re also reading about the victories, progress and forward movement that we celebrate.
It’s really important to remember that while this is something you can read about before returning to your own life, my family and I are actually living through all of this.
I can assure you that as much as you may feel that you know better at times, there isn’t anyone in a better position to make the decisions that have to be made other than Lizze and I.
The very same principle carries over to any other family as well.
It’s easy to make a decision or come up with an answer when there’s no sense of urgency. When in the moment, we don’t have the benefit of hindsight or being able to take a timeout until we can come up with a better idea.
This is real life and it’s not always pretty or pleasant. Sometimes it’s messy. Sometimes it’ll make you smile and other times it will break your heart.
By reading this blog, you are able to gain access to a family that is very much a work in progress. You will at times be reading my thought processes as I’m trying to work though a problem or feel my frustration as I struggle with the challenges.
At the end of the day, you don’t have to read any of this. You don’t have to visit this site and read things that make you uncomfortable or otherwise upset you. You can simply choose to do something else.
That same thing can’t be said for myself or my family because this is our life and we have no choice but to experience it first hand, in all its unedited glory.
It’s easy to judge or make assumptions when you don’t understand something. The point of this blog to help you understand by sharing, answering questions or providing insights that you wouldn’t otherwise have access to.
All I ask is that if you don’t have anything nice to say, don’t say anything at all. I’m always happy to help or answer your questions but please be respectful and remember that there’s a human being at the other end of your screen.