Generalization is a b!tch

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One of the most frustrating things for me as an Autism Dad, in regards to my kids with Autism is generalization. 

Merriam-Webster defines generalization as the act or process whereby a learned response is made to a stimulus similar to but not identical with the conditioned stimulus. 

In layman’s terms it means that if something happens once, it always happen again. Kids with Autism tend to apply this concept to just about everything in their lives. My kids are no exception. In fact, my kids are the poster children for generalization. 

Let me give you a few examples from recent history, most of which center around Emmett. 

  1. If something tastes funny this time, it will always taste funny. Even if the reason it tastes funny is because you just brushed your teeth. 
  2. If someone makes plans with Emmett and cancles the plans, Emmett will always be worried that it will happen every single time after. 
  3. If we watch the first episode of a new show, and Emmett doesn’t like it, he will never watch it again. It doesn’t matter how good the show gets, he will assume it’s the same as the first episode he watched. 
  4. A general example would be picking out a snack when we go to the store. If we do it once, it will be expected every single time. 

I’m really tired and these are the best examples my sleep deprived brain can come up with at the moment. Hopefully, you understand what I’m trying to say. 

The point I’m trying to make is that when you have a child with Autism, you have to be extremely careful what you say or do around them. Not only that, but you have to worry about what the people around them say and do, because it doesn’t matter where it comes from, kids will generalize many experiences, both good and bad. 

If you have a child with Autism in your life, keep these things in mind because generalization can be a bitch for Autism parents to deal with. It only takes one time to set a trend that causes chaos. 

It’s not easy and I’ve stepped on many a landmine in my tenure as an Autism parent. All anyone can do is their best. It’s probably a good idea to live by the rule, if you are unsure, ask….. ☺ 

How many of you can relate to these issues with generalization? What’s your experience and how do you deal with it? 

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Father to 3 with Autism and husband to my best friend. Oh...and creator fo this blog. :-)


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Jimmy Rock

Very frustrating stuff, although typically one wouldn’t use the term “generalization” in a negative light. Typically it refers to something positive, as in the ability to apply a specifically taught skill to other situations or other contexts. In other words, generalization is generally something you WANT your kids to be able to do. For example, when your kid learns to have a conversation without interrupting and can do it well in a social skills group, you want your kid to be able to generalize and apply those conversation skills in other settings outside out the social skills group. Unfortunately it’s… Read more »

Jimmy Rock
Jimmy Rock

Rob, haha, I think we might! I’m pretty certain a quick google search would show that typically generalization is characterized how I’ve described above. Just wanted to point it out because the more common usage, particularly in the context of autistics, would be as a positive and something to strive for, not as a negative. But whatever. I understand what you’re talking about and I’m sure you understand what I’m trying to say. It’s all good. I appreciate your willingness to discuss all this and putting this all out there. Promoting discussion of these issues, as long as we can… Read more »


Now see, I think Rob used the word correctly. As far as I can tell from a quick Google search, it is a neutral term. And I’ve always used it so.

Jimmy Rock
Jimmy Rock

OK. In and of itself, “generalization” is a neutral term. However, most commonly in the autism context “generalization” is used in reference to the process of applying taught skills (social or otherwise) to other settings or situations. If the skills are intentionally taught, then presumably one wants to see those skills applied in different situations. I’m not saying Rob used the word incorrectly. However, In most usages in the autistic context, it more often than not refers to something positive. That’s why I was curious when I saw the title of this post. Not that I was I was generalizing… Read more »